Okay my name is Tiffany. My best friends name is Angela. Angela was dating a guy name Chris for 3 years. After 3 yrs. Of dating he broke up with Angela because he was having feeling with another girl. Well guess what I'm the other girl. When he told me that he liked me for awhile I didn't know what to say. I did tell Angela and she said if you like him than go for him. I was kind of confused on why she said go for him. At first I told Chris no I could never do that to Angela, but now I do like him and I'm afraid to tell Angela and Chris. What happens I Angela just said go for it but really meant don't date him... I want him back?? I'm soooo confused??

Okay, first of all, 3 years is not just a little fling so chances are that your friend really does have feelings for this guy. Just because she said 'go for it' does not necessarily mean that.

Of course, you can never help how you feel about some one. Talk to your friend, get her true feelings on it. If she truly gives her blessings, then you could give it a try.

However you have to keep in mind your feelings about the two of them. Should you & him date, you have to think about the fact that your best friend will be around as well. 3 years of feelings don't go away overnight. How are you going to feel about that?

Also,it's always a red flag when a man leaves his girlfriend for you. Because think what could happen once You're the girlfriend.

Of course, it does not always happen that way. He could be the person you are destined to be with. It all comes down to how you really truly feel about him. But you have to prepare for the fact that it could ruin your friendship. Good luck!

When dating a friend's ex; in the end it'll distant your relationship with your friend. That I can tell you.

Sara

I must say, I've been on the other end. My ex dumped me after 2.5 years, and found a new guy, and I got over it. In the mean time, my ex's best friends (3 girls) started to flirt with me pretty frequently... in the end, my ex lost all her three best friends.

If you want to keep your friend, then I suggest you drop the boy for now, and later on, when things have settled, then you may attempt it... but as of right now, there will be too many complications, even if your friend will be OK with it.

If I was you I wouldn't even be considering dating him out of respect to my best friend. She might had just said yes to test you. Then you past but now you want to do it.

Aren't there any more guys in your town/city?

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After 3 yrs. Of dating he broke up with Angela because he was having feeling with another girl. Well guess what I'm the other girl.

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If I was your friend and my boyfriend after 3 years dumped me because he liked you I would be bothered by it and maybe even think something was going on with the two of you behind my back.

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I did tell Angela and she said if you like him than go for him. I was kind of confused on why she said go for him.

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Well of course if she's your best friend she'll say that because she wants you to be happy.


Sarah

I always say No to dating a friend's ex. It's just not worth it for me. It's not even a consideration.

Thanks for the advice. I will take it in for consideration. Yes there are other guys in my city but I don't think any are right for me. Also I asked Angela if she was testing me and she said no.

Okay but I hope you make the right decision. Btw, did you tell her he broke it off with her because he wanted you?

Don't do it.Sometimes doing the right thing is difficult but in the long run it feels very good.