I need some help/guidance. I am involved with a wonderful woman in California who has a 2 1/2 tear old. The problem is that I have a felony on my record for non-violent crime (arson with intent to defraud insurance in Indiana) She is just worried that her ex will find out about my record & use it against her to get full custody. Can they do that? It is the only thing on my record, and I have long, stable work history & retired from the military too