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  • Apr 12, 2009, 04:50 AM
    SkinsAddict
    I am in love with my boyfriends best friend, which is also my friends boyfriend
    I really really like my boyfriends best friend, coincidentally my good friends boyfriend. Now before I rant I'm only young but this feels real and I'm very aware too many teenagers say this but he's perfect, so please just reply as you would an adult. Now my good friend treats this amazing boy like he is nothing and I feel she doesn't deserve him, and sometimes he confides in me that he feels like dumping her because she ignores him too. My boyfriend is so very sweet and I should really love him, but I don't feel that way. Now the problem is I can't really dump my boyfriend because I will never see this amazing guy again, and I don't think I can tell the guy outright I like him for the sake of my dignity and fear of rejection. I really need advise as to whether this is a no-go area or anything, all advise and criticism is welcome regardless of your opinion.
  • Apr 12, 2009, 05:14 AM
    eLiffff

    You should think that your botfriend is a perfect boy for you. And your boyfriends friend is a terrible boy. Try to forget him.. You should think that your boyfriend has a great character..
    Also you should talk with your boyfriend that you want he to change.. I fell that he loves you , and he will chage..
    Just believe.. and wait.. everythink will be OK..
  • Apr 12, 2009, 07:18 AM
    jjwoodhull
    If you are feeling love for someone else, then your boyfriend is not the right person for you. Just gently tell him that he is a great guy, but you don't think the relationship is the right thing for you.

    As for the other guy... he is off limits. He is with your best friend and you must respect that.
  • Apr 12, 2009, 08:06 AM
    roxypox

    If you are in love with someone else and not in love with your boyfriend. Then that's just how it is. Even if he's great, even if he's wonderful... sometimes we just don't feel the way we wish we could.

    You should break it of with him. And JJs advice was really great.

    And like JJ also said about the guy you are in love with; he is off limits. He is already taken. Even if you think his girlfriend doesn't threat him as well as he deserves.

    Best of luck to you!

    Roxy
  • Apr 12, 2009, 03:06 PM
    liz28

    No matter what this guy is out limits. Even if you dump your boyfriend or if he dumps your friend. Unless you willing to throw your friend's friendship away.

    I think your secong guessing your feelings for your boyfriend because of this outside influence (this guy). Maybe you should limit your time/communication with him and if you want to be with your boyfriend, focus on him.

    No matter who your with you may find yourself liking someone else but it how you handle the situation is what counts. This will be a lesson for you and it would help you in the future. You can't control your feelings but you can control your actions.

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