Hi... well me and my ex boyfriend have been separated for about 4-5 months now.. and I'm not sure what to do he says he wants a fresh start... and a new girl friend but I can't seem to get over him.. sure I want to start new as well but it's just I'm having a hard time dealing with it.. we've had so much drama in between our relationship with an ex best friend and our friends even our miscarriage... he's the only guy I can't get over out of all my ex's and this being my last year of high school. I don't know what else to do.. he still calls he still has intercourse with me. We do still send a dirty text here and there.. and have sex too. But he confuses me he talks to other girls not that I care but I still like this guy and have feeling he makes me go with stuff I'm not sure how to refuses I guess I'm scared that if I refuses he won't talk to me again.he makes me feel like I never cross his mind.. and am worthless some times then says I deserve better then him but I keep coming back every time he hurts me.. I was pregnant and lost his baby at 6-7 weeks. About almost a 3 weeks ago. He doesn't really show he cares but now he acts weird toward me he avoids me half the time I tried talking to him about it.. but he won't budge then he tried turning this around on me, and we fought he told me to leave him a lone.. this guy I did love him and losing his baby was the hardest thing for me. I tried to date other guys but it's no use most of his friends know and people have big mouths that run no guy wants to be with a girl like me right now going through a miscarriage alone. It's just unfair. And now he's at it again he text me like 3 days ago "lets have a play date" he still wants that but he acted weird about it he didn't want sex just pleasure isn't it the same?? He said he doesn't want me getting attached but it's stupid how he still wants it from me and only me... yet he doesn't want to be my boyfriend I tried communicating with him already it doesn't work at all. He just says to stop we've had too much problems in the past and our friends would be on our case about it... I'm not sure what to do any more I really want him back and I don't know how to do it.. I can't tell him any thing about it how do I just not make him but make him realize that I truly do love him and want to be with him.. if I'm the only girl he wants to even have sex with and his the only guy I'm actually sexually seeing doesn't that seem like if we are going out? He makes things so complicated.. and I need some one's help :(

Sorry to tell you, he is playing on your feelings to keep you from healing and moving on to better things than him.

You must get him out of your life, and learn to love yourself much better than you do now, so you can break his control over your heart, and your life.

He doesn't love you, nor support you in your time of need, and knows you will eat his crap, because you care, and THINK you need him.

You must prove him wrong by breaking his influence on you and getting him out of your life for good. Things will be hard, but it will get better.

Read my signature, especially the stickies.

How old are you?

Are you in school?

Out of school?

This sounds like a situation you need to get away from for many months until your head is clear and focus on your life more.