Why am I bothered that my ex slept with someone a month ago?
My story is a bit complicated so il try and get straight to the point. I was/am married, approx 2 years ago me and my husband split up and I started seeing this guy, we dated for approx 1 month then ended up splitting and me going back to my husband.
He broke up with me saying he wasn't ready for a relationship etc etc and I was gutted but got myself together and decided that I wanted to give my marriage another go. Me and my husband got back together and everything was fine, but every 3 months my ex would text me asking how I am etc etc. For the 1st 9 months I ignored him and then after that I text him back saying I was OK. He asked to meet up for a beer and I said yes sure. When we met we ended up kissing.To cut a long story short my ex was asking me to get back with him and I was saying no as he hurt me last time, I do love my husband and really need to get the passion back in our relationship.
I met my ex a few more times over the next 9 months (approx 4 times) and we kissed but nothing more, he was saying he still loved me and wanted me back. I found out that he was seeing so many women whilst pleading to get back with me. Now I know your going to think I've got a husband so why am I bothered, it just really hurt me that he was saying one thing and doing another.
Last month I found out he was going round to a friends house (a mate he has know since high school). He told me there was nothing going on with them (I saw her posts to him on Facebook and there obviousley was) anyway, I found out tonight (he told me that they slept together about one month ago, I'm just totally gutted). He says that its me he loves and not her, that he thinks of me everyday and wants us to get back together. It the lies that get me the most, saying he wasn't with her for all that time when he was.
I know I'm going to get a lot of flack saying that I shouldn't care and that I'm married, I haven't seen my ex since Nov, I have kept my distance because of my marriage, what I want to know is why does it hurt me that he is with all these other woman when at the same time he is trying to get back with me?? Im trying hard to make my marriage work and that's why I've stayed away for 5 months. My husband is the kindest person I've met, whereas my ex is a complete liar.
Why am I bothered what my ex does when I really don't love him??