I have never had sex before but will soon be meeting a man and we've decided to have sex together. I've never met him before, we've only spoken online. I've known him for quite a long time and feel quite safe about this. He's much older than me. Would it make sense to go through with this?

How old are you?

I would wait till a couple of meetings before you do anything sexual other than kissing. I mean for me I like to be dating the person before I get intimate in that way.

When talking to someone online, you never know what to expect when meeting the person. You never know if when you meet the guy, whether he will be that same way as he was when you talked online. I would be careful though when you meet him. I wouldn't go by myself.

Internet communication can be very misleading. What kind of site did you meet him on? You could be putting yourself in a dangerous situation.

I'm 18

This sounds to me like a child predator and you should tell your parents and/or police about this man.

Don't be so fast to have sex with some guy that, really you don't know...Because just knowing him online isn't like knowing him offline. He could be some old, nasty geez, he could be a serial killer, he could have STD's, there's a LOT you Really don't know...Even After meeting face to face, you should wait a while...

How long have you been chatting with him? Have you spoken on the phone? How old is he?

I would say about 80 percent of men who talk to women online lie, a large group are married and just want cheap or free sex with as many women as they can.

Others just chat and lie but never meet.

You never meet and have sex the first meeting, and you check them out, phone address, phone numbers where they work and more.

You asked a question in your post here, you said: "Would it make sense to go through with this?" No it would not make sense to go through with this in fact it could cost you your life at the most, and just less than that you could lose yourself esteem, and all of your pride in yourself.

Please do not meet this man.

I've known him for a long time and how he'll turn out to be is not the problem. Its been 10 months, and he'll be okay with it if there's no sexual stuff. But I'm really into sexual stuff and I like him a lot so I just won't be able to resist. I never wanted to have sex this young, but... not able to help it. Tried earlier and couldn't do it 'cause of the pain. The 'first time' factor is the problem.

You said he is much older... how old is he?

I’ve known him for a long time and how he’ll turn out to be is not the problem. Its been 10 months, and he’ll be okay with it if there’s no sexual stuff. But I’m really into sexual stuff and I like him a lot so I just won’t be able to resist. I never wanted to have sex this young, but... not able to help it. Tried earlier and couldn’t do it ‘cause of the pain. The ‘first time’ factor is the problem.

Oh, he's 35

No, you have not "KNOWN" him at all, you have only chatted online, that is talking but that is not knowing them.

I have been there and done the dating online, over 40 percent of the ladies I meet online had all lied about things when I finally meet them or searched their background

You originally asked if we thought it made sense. I will say no - it does not make sense for you to do this. You have no idea who he really is or what his intentions are. The internet allows people to pretend to be things that they are not.

All right, I am not here to figure out if he's right or not. That's just demeaning and disrespectful towards him. It was just sexual thing that I was worried about.
Anyway, way to be melodramatic people :P

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alright, I am not here to figure out if he's right or not. that's just demeaning and disrespectful towards him. It was just sexual thing that I was worried about.
anyways, way to be melodramatic people :P

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It's not being melodramatic, it's being REAL. This is the real world now, sexual predators, pedophiles, serial killers. They all prey on the innocent, many of them on online communities and chat rooms.

This is how real life is now. If you are planning on meeting this man, do it in a public place, let friends and/or family know where you are. Do NOT meet this man for the first time in a private place.

I'm not telling friends about it since age factor makes it a problem. I will meet him in a public place though...

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I'm not telling friends about it since age factor makes it a problem. I will meet him in a public place though....

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You are still putting yourself at a huge risk. If age factor is a problem, then that is a big RED FLAG that this relationship is wrong. You should want to, and be able to, share your relationships with your friends and family.