Hello everyone, I am new to this site and have never talked about anything before but I am tired of living this way and need some advice. I have been married for 15 years and have 3 step children, all grown and in their 30's, and all still living at home with us. I have approached my husband about now its time for them to leave and get a life but he tells me that there's something wrong with me for saying that and is constantly making me feel bad. They all get mad at me and no one talks to me anymore. If one gets mad they all do and yet after we fight then my husband is super nice for a while as long as I don't say anything about him and his kids. The kids all have great jobs and could make it on their own but no one seems to wany that but me. I have been doing really great at my job and I have been doing things I like to do on my own yet my husband is becoming increasingly mean to me and over controlling. I don't understand why he is behaving this way. I confronted him again about how the adults living here should pull their own weight and pay some of the bills and we got into a huge fight which he gets so mad at times it scares me but this one ended in him choosing the kids over me, he said he could not ask them to help out and would not tell them they had to move but for me to do whatever I needed to do... im at a loss... I don't think I'm wrong in this but please help me, I feel like we have done our part and now its time to plan for our future and we can't if we keep paying for everything and going the way we are... and I'm tired of being told there's something wrong with me and constantly put down around here, what do you guys suggest.