NC, girlfriend moving out for "space" and cheating?
Girlfriend and I lived together for over a year. She used to get really jealous (more than I could handle) of other females (I only had 1-2 female friends) and so I gave them up for her. Also about my past (3 girls, I am 22.. not bad). Also accusing me of looking at girls (I don't, I'm a romantic type, never have cheated) and not wanting me to go out a lot without her socially. Low self esteem. I gave up my music, friends, and a LOT for her because she would complain. I used to get really angry because I thought it was wrong but did it to make her happy.
She moved from miami to the west coast FOR ME and school. She has no family here. She made friends, everything cool. She started to complain we weren't going out enough, I wasn't showing her attention. That is true in some respects, but BS because we DID go out and as I mentioned, I stopped doing a lot to spend more time with her. We both work and go to school so that doesn't help.
She started acting suspicious and we would get in fights. She would constantly and be in bad moods when she came home (not involving me) and just seemed so unhappy. She would randomly go out for weird excuses. She wouldn't sleep with me for 2 months and said she was just stressed. I tried to talk with her and tell her what can I do? She's not very good at communicating.
After all this, I started to think there was someone else. Not accusing her, just asking her what the hell is going on. I can FEEL something different. She said there's no spark. She randomly took off to California for a weekend. Always out, spending night at a friend's, just being so weird! UGHHHH.
We got into some really bad fights. I messed up really bad and said so many things I don't mean when I get angry. I just know there is more she won't say. I'm so incredibly sorry and apologized (she says things too). Well, we had a good weekend and she wrote me a nice love letter saying we are starting over. 3 days without a fight and on the 4th she send me a text at work... she's moving out! She needs space Come home and she's gone. Says she's at a friend's house. Then I find out it's a friend's sister but won't tell me or her parents in miami where. I get our phone bill (lists all the numbers our lines talk to) and see a number she texts HUNDREDS of times a DAY for days on end up until like 9 pm. Heart sinks. I find out who it is and don't tell her, hoping she confesses. She weaves so many lies and finally tell her I know where she lives and who that number is. She calls me a stalker and psychotic. I just want to know what's going on! Breaking my heart.
Turns out, it's a 30 year old guy with a kid (my girlfriend is 20) that is separated from his wife and "supposedly" they all live with his 32 year old sister. IS SHE BANGING THIS GUY? He goes to our college.
She talks to me one day, the next she don't. She tells me she wants to fix our problems and just wants physical space but wants to talk and still see each other. Just needed to get away from the fighting. Cool. But when I would call she would get soooo upset over nothing, so I went NC. She would break it and get so upset at me for "ignoring" her.
To add to my stupid problems, I told multiple friends I knew in Miami about what is going on, and they told me she has a past a lotttt different from what she told me. Apparently, she has been with more guys, is a flirt, and has cheated on guys before. Now, I have no problem with a woman's past but why lie? ESPECIALLY NOW WITH THIS MOVING OUT GOING ON!!!
I confronted her and she got upset and said some of it was true but some was not. Never admitting to cheating. I don't even care. She's a liar and she basically told me "so what. i didnt want u to judge me. its none of your business!"
I am trying to forget her. Help me out. Is she telling the truth about JUST LIVING with this guy because she has no family here and honestly just wants space to heal like she says? Or is all this suspicious stuff and BS lies a cover and I'm the option in case this new guy don't work out?
