Will I get him back
He says he loves me but his ex girlfriend is threatening that if he doesn't go back to her she will take his 3 kids 4 hrs away I'm worried hell go back
The courts have told him that she can't take the kids any further than 20 km out of his place of residency but it hasn't gone through court so it hasn't been set down to her and he hasn't got the money to pay for a solicitor so yeah will he stay with me or go back or what should he do

That's up to him to handle his business in the proper way.

Because your boyfriend has children they are his first priority. He has to make sure they are in good care and he doesn't want to see them move away. This is something he needs to work out on his own, with the ex girlfriend. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. You need to leave him alone and let him sort things out on his own. If he comes back, great, but right now let him be.

He's got a lot of baggage. Is that the kind of relationship you want?

He's obviously unsure of what he wants. So even if he chooses you over his kids today, how would you know he won't regret not picking them instead tomorrow?

I suggest you stear clear.

Any good parent would chose their children over anybody. You cannot ever think that you should come first. The court system will work this issue out, that's up to him to handle. You simply back off for the time being, let him make the decision without any hindrance from you.

Do you really want him to put you before his kids? I hope he's not that kind of man. Let him sort this out and you stay out of it.

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Originally Posted by starlite1

Because your bf has children they are his first priority. He has to make sure they are in good care and he doesn't want to see them move away. This is something he needs to work out on his own, with the ex girlfriend. Unfortunately there is nothing you can do. You need to leave him alone and let him sort things out on his own. If he comes back, great, but right now let him be.

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In reply to everyone's help thank you
But would like to clear something up I never wanted him to choose me over his kids I just don't feel that people should go back to somebody because of children it should be for love the relationship will just get nastier and nastier because they don't love each other and that in the end that will hurt the children more then what it would if they just went they're separate ways the children will understand soon enough that they're parents arnt together because they don't love each other
But thanks everyone

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Originally Posted by katsoph

I dont feel that people should go back to somebody because of children it should be for love the relationship

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We all think the same but what it's still your BF's call, If he wants to have his kids on sight and have you next to him at the same time.
This is no brainer situation if you know your stand in his life.