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  • Apr 6, 2009, 07:49 PM
    JESSI_CA4U
    He's changed
    I been with my boyfriend for 4 months and everything was great at first. He called me everyday we would talk for hours and it was just puppy love . Well it literally changed from one day to another. One day he came over my house we watched movies and everything was good. He left that night saying he'll call me later and to answer so we kissed goodbye and that was that . Well he didn't call so I thought no biggy one night oh wow... well he didn't call the next day either. Two days later he finally called and he acted like nothing so I thought okay maybe he was busy. And when I told him why haven't you called he just said my bad. Well I started noticing that he would call probably every other day and sometimes even twice a week. But he would text me everyday... but most of the times when I would text back he wouldn't text me back anymore.so its been like this for a month and a week already and I don't know what to do . I haven't seen him and when I make plans he always sells me out. And I've sent him text discusing that what's his deal BUT HE NEVER TEXTS back and the next day he'll call me acting like I never even asked him anything... ANY ADVICE ? This changed from one day to another what should I do :(
  • Apr 6, 2009, 07:59 PM
    humble10

    Hi, ask him if he is dating someone else.Don't allow him to give you short answers without explanations.He is not respecting you.It may hurt you to found out why he is acting this way, but you have a right to know.
  • Apr 6, 2009, 08:07 PM
    JESSI_CA4U
    Well ever since we started dating we would play around saying oh why didn't you text back were you with your other girl... he would play with me like this too but anyway recently I said " your girl probably always around you thats why you never call no more huh?" and I said it in a play tone but he just replyed " your tripin baby i aint got no other girl ... just you " and I just replyed umhmm... its just I think I'm falling hard for him but he knows I don't play games...
  • Apr 6, 2009, 09:13 PM
    Nestorian

    Hmmm, well, maybe his cell phone is not working right. MY friend and I used to texted every day, but then he phone started dropping messages until it just didn't get any at all. But the phone part worked so, I don't know.

    Might be a good idea to just up front ask him about it, so you don't have to keep playing a guessing game with yourself.

    As for the talking for hours thing, well that kind of happens. You get used to each other and then it's usually a good idea to get up get out and do something new.

    But other then the open and honesty thing, there really isn't much else to do but play a long.

    Peace and kindness be with you.
  • Apr 6, 2009, 09:35 PM
    HelpinHere

    I'd think that either his phone is not working correctly (Text Messages get lost often)
    Or (gulp) he's cheating.

    I wouldn't want it to be the latter, but lots of the signs seem to be there.

    I Agree with Nestorian, that you NEED TO meet up in RL and talk to him about it face 2 face.
    You can read/listen as much as you want, but you can only see the truth in his eyes.

    I hope he is not cheating on you, and it is rather solved by a more simple/better explanation.
  • Apr 7, 2009, 05:37 AM
    talaniman

    Face to face expressing your concerns, is better than being text buddies. How old are you both?
  • Apr 7, 2009, 05:43 AM
    Romefalls19

    Too much can get lost in translation through texting, try talking in person and iron out the issues that way
  • Apr 7, 2009, 06:27 AM
    I wish
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Face to face expressing your concerns, is better than being text buddies. How old are you both??

    Have to spread rep.

    Confronting him about this face to face about this is the way to go.

    Secondly, I don't think he changed from the beginning of your relationship. He was just putting extra effort at first to lock you in and now he's back to his old habbits.

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