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  • Apr 3, 2009, 07:46 PM
    Moonfur7
    Boy Friend Troubles!
    Listen my boyfriend ( I'm 16 ) wants to DO me not kidding Im a strong christain so I say, NO, but he keeps presuring me, it sucks, should I brake up?:confused:
  • Apr 3, 2009, 07:53 PM
    liz28

    Yes break it off. If he can't respect your wishes than why stay? He obivious wants sex and your not having it so this is just going be an ongoing issue between the two of you.

    I think it is cool that your waiting and not giving into the pressure. Thumbs Up!
  • Apr 3, 2009, 07:57 PM
    bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE

    Yes, you should break up with him.

    If he respected you then he wouldn't pressure you. Being in a relationship doesn't mean you have to have sex. Being in a relationship means getting to know eachother's likes and dislikes, what they want to be when they grow up, what's their family like etc. Having sex to young and too early can ruin a relationship and may even lead to a breakup.
  • Apr 6, 2009, 08:33 AM
    talaniman

    If your tired of him pressuring you, yes, kick him to the curb!
  • Apr 8, 2009, 01:58 PM
    CrayonScribbles

    I think you should break off the relationship also. I am 14 years old and also a strong Christian, so I know if I were in your place I would break up the relationship
  • Apr 8, 2009, 02:05 PM
    Justwantfair

    What kind of boyfriend ignores your feelings for what he wants...

    Dump him, he is a user, not a boyfriend.
  • Apr 8, 2009, 02:10 PM
    artlady

    Clearly,he is not showing you respect and because of that you should distance yourself from him as much as you can.
    He may try to use every line there is including*if you love me,you will let me*.
    Don't fall for it.Stick to your plan and don't let any guy ever manipulate you.
    Always honor yourself and when you are an adult you will have much healthier relationships for it.
  • Apr 8, 2009, 08:22 PM
    HelpinHere

    Obviously, he just wants to use you.
    If he won't care about your wishes, and just keeps trying to pressure you for sex, obviously he has no respect for you or what you believe.
    If you respect yourself (which you obviously do, because you said "NO") then you will break it off and find yourself a guy who will respect you more.
  • Apr 9, 2009, 06:44 PM
    braindamage

    Well to start
    16 way to young to even consider doing "it"
    And if he can't respect the fact you're a strong christian who wants to wait
    Then he's not worth it but I'm here to only give you advice and to help you choose
    So the decision is all up to you
    Good Luck
  • Apr 10, 2009, 09:32 PM
    iLy541

    Cancel and Move On love. Do what a strong and independent woman would do. Leave him. In Brooklyn we have a saying "A MAN WANTS WHAT HE CAN'T GET, AND ONCE HE HAS IT HE DOESN'T WANT IT ANYMORE". All he wants is a**, you don't need that. There are plenty fish in the sea. Go Fish some out. ;)
  • Jun 4, 2009, 08:53 PM
    biversen

    I know its hard to do but you have to let him know that if he doesn't repect you enough to accept your answer, then your going to break up. If he cares about you enough, he will stay. Good luck
  • Jun 8, 2009, 04:50 PM
    firebabe4

    yes you should very much if he won't stop pressuring you then break it off
  • Jun 11, 2009, 09:04 AM
    jojobaybee
    Dump him at the endof the day you want to be happy and ready for it, if he's pressuring you then he obviously doesent realli care about you just afte one thing. I have alredi lost mine and its such a regret I was onli 14 and I wish I was still a virgin to be honest
    Girls have rights and one of them is to say NO
  • Jun 12, 2009, 10:56 AM
    ChaNelLuver

    I'm twelve and my boyfriend is sixteen and he wouldn't even think about trying to pressure me into "doing it" with him. If your boyfriend doesn't respect you enough to listen to your feelings he doesn't deserve you. Unless your in complete love with him you should dump him. If you really love him talk to him about it and see where he stands if he hears what you have to say about not being ready he might respect it but if you just keep telling him no he's going to try even harder because boys usually want what they can't have.

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