I have been with my boyfriend for a couple years now and we are as happy as can be. We just had a baby together a few weeks ago and ever since ihave been wondering if he will ever ask me to marry him or is he to comfortable with the way things are. Whenever we talk about it he always says I hope you marry me one day. He always says one day. I just want to at least get engaged for a few years. He is 28 and I am 27. What to do?

Convince him harder that you want to get engaged. You could tell his friends to drop hints about it to him.

I'm sorry but I can't think of any easy, fun solutions to this. Guess it's time for a little discussion about where you think this relationship will/should go, or next time he says "one day" mention that you are sure you're ready and would love to very soon. Of course you don't want to annoy him, but you also don't want to get stuck in a rut. I wish I could be more helpful.

Congratulations on the baby, by the way!

You should ask him what he means by saying I hope you will marry me one day. They could be a hint that he wants to ask you but doesn't know when. I know that souds weird but just try it.

Yes, I concur. It seems like the two of you need to have a talk about your future but you need to have with him. Nobody else! No friends, family, etc.

And second congrats on your new bundle of joy.

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Originally Posted by Claire58

Convince him harder that you want to get engaged. you could tell his friends to drop hints about it to him.

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I think that if you have to convince/persuade someone to marry you then you shouldn't be get married to that person at all.

Your partner should want to marry you on their own free will and shouldn't have the feeling on being force to do so.

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Originally Posted by liz28

I think that if you have to convince/persuade someone to marry you then you shouldn't be get married to that person at all. Your partner should want to marry you on their own free will and shouldn't have the feeling on being force to do so.

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I agree. Remember the saying " If you love someone set him/her free........."? You have a wonderful blessing of God, take care of it and let the baby be your spring of joy if the rough weather sets in.

You need to communicate.It sounds as if you are not sharing your honest feelings about this issue.

Tell him why marriage is important to you .Ask him why he feels that waiting is a better idea.

Tell him why you want to be engaged.If he feels pressured ,discuss his concerns.

Guessing why someone feels a certain way is an exercise in futility.
Communication is the key that makes a relationship healthy.