My ex was recently awarded sole decision making as well as res custody of our 4 yr old daughter. Today I put a restrainer on him because he was constantly calling harassing me and rubin it in my face. He is court ordered to pay spousal support and has been doing so threw the USPS. I believe him sending it could be a violation of the protection order or if he doesn't send it I could get him for contempt. Either way He could be put in jail. I am also taking the case back to court due to some information I found out on the stepmother. She was constantly gloating in the fact that my child was taken from me. She got my child disenrolled from the center she was working at and then quit her job there due to the this enrollment. Upon going back to the center to pick up her things they had changed the ode and would not let her back inside and she began pounding on the door. If my ex were to go to jail over the violation or contempt and the testimony of the stepmothers behavior were to be heard and the judge sees her staying in that home is not good for her what would happen to my child. I am asking this because the courts already think my boyfriend is detrimental to her and a hazzard to myself.

Its not a violation for him to be sending you court ordered support through the mail unless there was some other way that the courts had said to do it.

It sounds like your spinning your wheels and you really need to get yourself back on track and concentrate on getting your own life back together so you can later fight for your child. I believe your timing is very poor to keep pushing the courts buttons.

I suggest you get rid of boyfriend because he would have been out the door I never would choose a man over my child

And what if Im 7 months pg with his child?

You kick him out, you choice a BF over your child, and a new child,
Sounds like Karma is coming around,

But no his mailing the money is not a violation, it is a court order, and no you don't have him either way.

Sorry you made some choices, had to pay the price for it, maybe he was a jerk about it, but honestly, in split ups, that is what happens, I am sure there is another side to it also.

It is more important for you to be safe and your children no man is worth losing them for I know it is hard to be alone with a baby but many woman have done it... what has he done to be detrimental to you and your 4 yr old

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

you kick him out, you choice a BF over your child, and a new child,
sounds like Karma is comming around,

But no his mailing the money is not a violation, it is a court order, and no you don't have him either way.

Sorry you made some choices, had to pay the price for it, maybe he was a jerk about it, but honestly, in split ups, that is what happens, I am sure there is another side to it also.

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Yeah well the boyfriend is not detrimental as the courts see he is, there has been many lies placed on me and him and we fought hard for the truth. The truth is I am being alienated by him and his wife. How is my boyfriend detrimental when the stepmother is the one pounding on doors?

It doesn't matter what you think. It matters what the courts believe. It just seems that you are extremely bitter and looking for some way to take out your anger on your ex.

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Originally Posted by MarkwithaK

It doesn't matter what you think. It matters what the courts believe. It just seems that you are extremely bitter and looking for some way to take out your anger on your ex.

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The courts aren't always right... Of course I'm biter If you were women and had your child stolen from you based on lies you'd understand. What the truth is he's taking his anger out on me and using our child to do so because HE is angry I left him.

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Originally Posted by neednadvice

the courts arent always right.....Of course im biter If you were women and had your child stolen from you based on lies youd understand. what the truth is hes taking his anger out on me and using our child to do so because HE is angry I left him.

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I was a woman whose children were awarded custody to their father, but for a different reason than yours.

No, the courts aren't always right, but it's how you present the facts of the case that counts. Apparently the court feels that the BF situation is not in the best interest of the child. To get your child back you need to do one of 2 things.

1) Prove that he is a good role model for the child; or
2) Leave him.

No they aren't always right... which is why I said it matters what they believe. You're searching for ways to get him locked up and from what you posted he hasn't done anything wrong. The court system has decreed that your child is safest with her father. If you can prove otherwise then you should get your attorney involved.

I'm suggesting that this user temporarily be banned. Once you take into consideration all of her other threads, she's not looking for legal advice. She's looking for a "Gotcha!" on her ex-husband and his new wife.

It's so sad when some people can't just pick up the pieces and move on with their life...