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  • Apr 1, 2009, 12:15 AM
    confusedgirlplz
    Guy trouble, AGAIN
    A few of you have seen and answered my problems before. When it comes to guys; I'm hopeless!:rolleyes::confused: Same guy, new problem. I asked him in a note to be my friend. A week later he responded yes! Then I answered with some questions and stuff. He hasn't answered, that was a few months ago. Recently, I tried walking with him to his car a block away from school. He said I could, but I sounded like a complete idiot talking to him!:mad: He seemed either weirded out or nervous. I only have two months before he goes to high school and I stay at middle school for my eighth grade year. What should I do?
  • Apr 2, 2009, 05:01 PM
    confusedgirlplz

    Never mind. He told me we can't be friends. I no longer need advice, unless you can help me move on.
  • Apr 2, 2009, 07:38 PM
    mudweiser
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by confusedgirlplz View Post
    Never mind. He told me we can't be friends. I no longer need advice, unless you can help me move on.

    The best way to move on is to keep busy =)

    MRS.S
  • Apr 2, 2009, 08:01 PM
    jrsg

    Keep your chin up! It is tough to be 'rejected' but it happens to everybody. The best you can do is move on, and learn form this experience.

    I'm glad to hear you know and want to move on, that is a big step already. To move on, meet other guys, new friends, stay distracted, and don't think about this guy.

    What should you learn from this?
    I believe that being more direct, and outgoing would help. It sounds like you are really shy. Asking out in letters, waiting months to talk to him... It would be extremely beneficial to you if you asked him out to his face, or went out of your way a bit more to spend time with him.

    So, learn from this, move on, enjoy life, and good luck in the future!
  • Apr 2, 2009, 08:15 PM
    confusedgirlplz

    Thank you for the advice. I never asked him out though. All I ever said was I wanted to be friends. But he knew I liked him. Ya, he told me that yesterday. His church doesn't allow dating under age sixteen so, quote, he was 'therefore "checking no", or saying the letters had to stop.'
    But, yes. I am extremely shy around guys.
    Anymore advice?
  • Apr 3, 2009, 06:45 AM
    confusedgirlplz

    I'm having a pretty hard time, as this is the second guy I've ever liked, and the first to reject me. Plus I was crazy about him almost all year. Then, of course, I have him in two of my classes. I've been trying to ignore him. Is that good, or should I do something else?

    Please keep giving advice!
  • Apr 3, 2009, 07:06 AM
    mudweiser
    Just be yourself, that's the best you can do. Occupy yourself with other things, get involved in school activities, do some volunteering [this will help you in the future]. Soon enough you'll be having fun being occupied you'll find yourself with new friends and maybe even a potential boyfriend.

    MRS.S
  • Apr 3, 2009, 07:18 AM
    artlady

    Enjoy this time in your life when you should be concentrating on how to be a complete and together person.

    Work on your personal skills.How to have confidence,how to better yourself as a person.

    When you are matured you will be better prepared than most if you know how to be happy without a boy in your life.

    Remember this,you must be happy first with YOU before you can share yourself in a relationship.

    Don't think so much about the boys right now,you're a little young to be so concerned about those things.
  • Apr 3, 2009, 07:21 AM
    mudweiser
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by artlady View Post
    Don't think so much about the boys right now,your a little young to be so concerned about those things.

    Agreed. Besides the relationship world isn't like the movies. [Unfortunately :(]

    Its not all that horrible; but it takes some work and maturity in order to have a successful relationship.

    MRS.S
  • Apr 3, 2009, 06:51 PM
    confusedgirlplz

    Thank you all again! I have never had a boyfriend, and am perfectly happy. I realize you all think I'm too young. Maybe I am. But I can't really help it. My friends are helping really well right now also. Thank you!

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