I have been dating a wonderful young lady (39) and myself (48) for 8 months. I have known her for 8 years and we have been working together for these 8 years. We started dating in June/July of last year and have gone from 0 to 80 back to 0 then 10,20,50 and now we are back to 0. She says that she needs her space to find out who she is and what she wants and that she will need to date other people. She feels that this is the only way that we have a chance. I am falling apart and heart broken. I have been for 8 years chasing her and I am really in love. I tried not to tell her, but yes I did and now she needs space.
I take this event as my own fault as I seem to be needy and searching for some form of validation at an emotional level. How do I stop, How do I win her back. She said that I have all the qualities that she needs in a husband/Father of her child and she hopes it is me that she picks but for now we can not spend any emotional time. She will still go out with me, but she will also date others. How do I win??
Just looking for an answer. I really do not want to lose her, but it looks like the end of the world is here and I am just treading water...
Any help would be grand.
Thanks in advance.
FP