If your ex wanted you back would you try it again?

Depends on why we broke up in the first place, if he/she cheated than no way.

No,once I close a door it is shut.

I give it my all and don't give up until I know there is no going back,by then I am emotionally free of them.

No reason to back step.

I hope your not talking about yours. If so, leave the past in the past and move on. How many times must you continue to ride on this merry-go-round?

As long as they didn't cheat, and I still was in love with them, and they really knew that they were in love with me, then yes.

I would do it for the mere challenge... I am a true a$$-hole, in every since of the word, so I hold a chip on my shoulder at times. When someone throws me away, I take it personally, and I will prove to myself, more than anything, that they made the wrong choice. Now, I know this is an extreme waste of time and energy, but I am a competitor at heart.

I have also learned a lot about being in a relationship, so I truly think things would be different. I am not sure I like who my ex has become though, but I would give it a shot.

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Originally Posted by kctiger

I would do it for the mere challenge...I am a true a$$-hole, in every since of the word, so I hold a chip on my shoulder at times. When someone throws me away, I take it personally, and I will prove to myself, more than anything, that they made the wrong choice. Now, I know this is an extreme waste of time and energy, but I am a competitor at heart.

I have also learned a lot about being in a relationship, so I truly think things would be different. I am not sure I like who my ex has become though, but I would give it a shot.

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Would you give it a shot, just for revenge, to prove yourself?

Is this because you feel like you wronged her in the relationship?

With the perspective of being single, have you not already seen the flaws in the relationship?

Don't you think that if the "ex" wants you back, it's because you have become that number 2, back up plan?

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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

Would you give it a shot, just for revenge, to prove yourself?

Is this because you feel like you wronged her in the relationship?

With the perspective of being single, have you not already seen the flaws in the relationship?

Don't you think that if the "ex" wants you back, it's because you have become that number 2, back up plan?

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I would go back if she was the person I fell in love with in the first place. I wouldn't go back to prove anything, nor would I EVER make it a point to get her back. I realize there were flaws in the relationship, on both parts. I think, for me at least, I needed to be single for awhile, as there are a lot of issues I HAD to work on. I recently called it quits with the one gal (you know who) just because I have ZERO interest in having a girlfriend.

As far as the ex, a year, maybe two down the line, I would just flat out reject the idea of dating her again. I don't count on it, nor do I give a rats a$$. I don't think it would be a back up plan, as I am fairly certain she knows I do not care about what she does, nor do I have any desire to get her back... not anymore.

My wife broke up with me 6 months into us dating because she got "scared" I gave her another chance and it has been perfect since then.

Yes it depends on the situation. But not if cheating or physical/mental abuse was involved.. some things I can not forgive. But as others said.. a lot of the time the person we were once in love with is now a different person. And the new person that they are might very well be unattractive to us now. Holding onto that hope they are still the person they were years ago when you met them is a long-shot.. sad to say, but it's the truth. I would surely take my ex back after long discussions and a lot of work.. but that's only because I never really feel like we did anything so bad to each other that reconciliation isn't an option..

Thumper

I have gone back after several relationships. Each time I quickly remembered why it ended the first time. I know that I would do it again - for me there is something about breaking up for the second time that really gives me closure!

There are two guys that I gave a second chance and both time I realized right away that nothing has changed. There's no sense in getting back together with an ex unless whatever caused the breakup in the first place is resolved.

Freshman year in college, my class's mentor told us while she was a Sophomore in college, she dated her husband for two months who she originally wasn't into, but he treated her like a princess and he quickly fell in love with her, one of those "nice guys" like you read about. She didn't feel the same so she split, breaking his heart. Six months of no contact and seeing other people, they dated again and are now married.

Not to give you false hope, but getting back together is possible, but it's always once you've moved on from that person and can see them the way you did before you asked them out on that first date. When I get in this mindset I ask myself why I dated so-and-so to begin with, and the only reason I can give, with my past relationships, is that each one of them was convenient in one way or another. That's not a good platform to start any relationship, so it's clear it would fail again.