Sir,
I like a girl who is my neighbour.I like her very much and I told her indirectly also.I know she understands but talk only when she want something from me and her requirement is related to help her in job only.she got job near to my building .Pls solve my two problems
1)I want to talk to her daily but she talks only when she talks only in relation to job and too once in few months.

Well, you have to go and talk to her... YOU have to startthe conversation NOT her. Just stop her, ask how she is doing... start with the weather - seriously. Talk about her!! Ask about her job.

LISTEN, learn to listne. No interuptions.

Women generally talk 70% of the conversation - let her talk! She'll make it easy... ask questions. Learn about current events.

You have to learn to make a woman laugh, make her laugh. But, that's a higher level of conversation class.

Ask her to coffe and set a day to go.

Yes, Wildcat is absolutely right. All you have to say is "hi, what are you up to" and let HER do the TALKING. Doesn't matter if you just bungy jumped off K2, what she's doing WILL and SHOULD eat up most of the conversation.

With my ex, I never did much talking. She would always tell about her day, this, that, I'd listen.

Talking daily won't cut it. That's overkill. Since she is your neighbor you obviously see her a lot. Most of the time a simple smile and "Hello, how are you?" is what's appropriate. Every once in a while you may want to engage her in a short conversation. Since you feel that she's only interested in talking about her job, try steering it in a different direction. You can always begin with the old standby, the weather. There's always your job to talk about as well. Also current events or happenings around town (since you live in the same neighborhood.) Just take things slow and easy and get to know her on a gradual basis.

That's right she lives in my neighbourhood,but I not often see her as I moved to office and she too.How I develop family relationship (her parents) with her

What do you mean develop family relationship with her parents?
I think you should try develop a friendship with her first before.

First timer aren't you? Just kidding. Every girl is different. Some talks a lot and some talks less. You have to kind of balance it out to get a successful result. She seems to be shy as yourself but willing to engage. I don't know what button to push since I don't know both of you. Obviously you have different culture and doing something from my own perspective might blow it all off. Start asking basic question that will lead her to hanging out with you. What kind of drinks she like? Juice, milk, water, vodka, whiskey, or wine. I prefer wine, chardonnay perhaps. And does she eat? I'm sure she does. Ask what kind of food she eats? Does she do anything on weekends? Maybe go out with friends? Start with the outdoors but you must stay relevant avoid questions that will freak her and/or push her away. Once you get her attention try doing more indoors. Then you'll definitely get to know her well. Hope this helps.

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Originally Posted by vidisha

Sir,
I like a girl who is my neighbour.I like her very much and i told her indirectly also.I know she understands but talk only when she want something from me and her requirement is related to help her in job only.she got job near to my building . solve my two problems
1)I want to talk to her daily but she talks only when she talks only in relation to job and too once in few months.

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My problem still not solved.Now I am more attached to her.My problem is that I am not able to meet her I don't have the chance to say HI to her as most of the time she confined in her Home. Suggest how I develop friendship with her