I know this is the typical annoying teenage girl talking.. but really, this is getting pathetic. I honestly am sick of feeling unwanted and unattractive. I know a boyfriend is not the answer to all my problems, but I just want to feel special and wanted for once, to know that I'm OK. To be fair, I go to an all girl's high school ( not helping!) , but everyone else has already had like 3 bf's, what is so horrible about me??
I know part of the problem is me, because I'm not exactly confident, but there are other girls like me that I know who have tonnes of guys after them. I don't think I'm so hideous that no one should like me, but then again I am sooo not a supermodel at 5 foot 2!
I know this may seem pathetic to some of you, but it is really upsetting me. It's a horrible feeling knowing that you aren't good enough for anyone. I just seem to get more depressed whenever I like someone, because I never have the guts to do anything about it, and it never amounts to anything.
Please tell me how to change this, I hate feeling alone and worthless.

First you have to get some "guts" to do something. How can we make that happen?

Ok first off, there is nothing wrong with being 5'2, I am and I like to see it as an endearing quality... so there! (lol)


Second, no boyfriend, does not equal unattractive or not good enough.


I didn't go to an all girl's school, but I didn't have a real boyfriend until I was 18.

But you know what I did do? Enjoyed myself by hanging out with my friends, doing activities I enjoyed... generally being a teenager..

If you don't change the way you feel about yourself, no one else will be able to see the pretty, confident, fun-loving girl that is somewhere inside of you.

So my advice: Start loving yourself, because before you manage that you are never going to find peace and happiness. I guarantee you that when you stop searching for someone to love you and start having a good time, by yourself and with friends etc. you will find someone that really likes you for you... and you won't be on here going

'I really love my bf but I'm sure he's going to leave me because I think I'm ugly'

OMG PLEASe READ my posts. I think you are my twin. I'm 16 and I feel the same way except I'm only 5 ft tall! Lol so I really understand how you feel. I honestly believe that guys are so stupid right now they can't see how great some girls like us are. We have to wait until they "mature" which is so stupid. I know how you feel though, about being wanted for once. I never do anything about my crushes either. But I do have confidence, I just turn to jello around guys I like. Im in the same boat as u. so if you want to talk more that's cool.

Well sounds like I'm a guy looking for confident girls who are mature! Shame we always end up with the bad eggs isn't it? Go out there and enjoy yourself. Do what you like doing and then guys who have similar interests will follow shortly. The less you worry about it the more likely it is going to happen. Also take a look at some of those girls - are they spending enough time on their work - the stuff that determins their lives - or are they too busy doing silly things with their user boyfriends. Sometimes its better to be away from that harsh mentalitly and put yourself above it.

Girl there is nothing wrong with you... you just think there is and put yourselp down which is bad no one wants to be with someone that whines a lot feeeling like there not good enough when they are... you just need to grow a back bone and go out there and have fun and flirt but don't be slutty though lol :P you just got to find the right guy :)

I didn't have a single nibble from a boy until I was 18...
I didn't really socialise much before then and after my 18th birthday I started going to a sports club, and then... voilà! My first boyfriend... lasted a whole 5 months before I realised he was an idiot... it's true what they say about footballers, too many hits to the head really does cause brain damage.

No need to rush into finding the right person, he will come along eventually :)

Exactly what she said your too young right now yyou will find the right guy soon have fun with friends and then you will find a guy soon just have fum don't be depressed that's a major turn off to them they like a chase and a girl that is happy and proud but not to proud :)

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Originally Posted by smcthatgirl2

its a horrible feeling knowing that you aren't good enough for anyone.

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^ This is your problem. How can you expect someone to love you when you don't even love yourself? You have to turn this mind set around. You are unique. You are beautiful. You are a catch. Any guy would be lucky to have you. <<You start believing this, you can have any guy you want. Work on your confidence! You can do it :D

You are still so young yet hon. Give it time. Your also not done growing, you could sprout up to a 5'8" at any time! But if you don't that's OK! Plenty of guys like the shorter girls :) my husband likes the fact that he can put his arm around me and my head goes under his armpit HEHE it makes him feel like he can protect me, and it makes me feel VERY taken care of


You are very loved and cared for. I don't even know you and just reading your post a feel so deeply for you.
There is someone out there waiting for you and when its time, you will meet him :) don't rush it :)

Good luck hon *hugs*

I'm 13 and I felt this way too!
I go to a public school with a lot of hot guys.
Im very pretty but I was not that confident in myself. That's why boys didn't notice how attractive and smart I am until now.

ADVICE>I know how you feel everyone wants to be wanted and loved by someone other than there parents, so you are not pathetic. I know lots of girls under 5 foot and butt ugly with so many hot boys going after them. Then I was like wats wrong with me? But then I realized I can get any boy I like I just had to be more confident and fun.
*also when you find a boy you like don't just sit there with your friends and comment on how gorgeous he is. Boys are attracted to confidence as I learned. So be the one to go up to him and ask him does he want to play volley ball or something. Then slowly work your way up to when you are sure he likes you and ask him out.
It doesn't hurt to try and you have nothing to lose
*hope I helped and good luck*=)

Work on getting good grades. Work at NOT having a boyfriend. They can create emotional havac which can't be good in getting good grades. Make up your mind not to bother with guys until you are out of high school and into college. Then.. give it some thought again...

be yourself show off abit get out and show yourself off to the boys u like I'm about the same age as u and that's what I do:)
don't get too close show yourself from a distance (to boys) trust me they will be chaceing u after..
add a few boys on chat sites introduce yourself and go out and show yourself off to them:)

GOOD LUCK!! =D