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Serigant mother

I am looking to be a serigant mother.

I am 19 years old ad have had my own healthy daughter already.
I have no mental illnesses or any health probeblems. I need to do this or else
I'll be on the street and I'd like to help other people know the joys of having their own family. Does anyone know where I can become a serigant mother in California?

What do you mean you'll be on the street? You need the money from being a surrogate (which I think is what you mean) for your living expenses?

I find it odd that you answered this same question on another thread - now YOU are asking the question - ?

EDIT: I notice that your comment on another thread has been removed.

Why do you want to be a surrogate mother?

Just wanting to pass on the joy of the experience of motherhood is not enough, it is a very emotional experience. Imagine someone had told you to give up your daughter right after you had her. You will not meet the age requirement to become a surrogate mother.

If you want to be something, don't you think you should know how to spell it? Being a surrogate mother may not keep you off the streets. Generally a surrogate contract. Will pay the mother's medical expenses plus a payment once the baby is born.

If you cannot show that you can pay for your room and board, you are unlikely to qualify.

I had to make another name to even look at the answers I got. This is hayhay1266. I did have to give up my daughter right after I had her. I didn't want to put my daughter on the street. So I put her up for adoption. I know what the emotional stress is like.

You can not be a surrogate. I am unsure how you believe that would be a benefit to your current situational problems.

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Originally Posted by hunter88

I had to make another name to even look at the answers i got. this is hayhay1266. I did have to give up my daughter right after i had her. I didn't want to put my daughter on the street. So i put her up for adoption. I know what the emotional stress is like.

My dear,you are in no position to be thinking of having a child so soon after you have been through such a traumatic experience as giving up your baby.

You can't replace your daughter by being a surrogate.

I suggest you find some help for your current problems before they get out of hand.
You really should get help from a therapist so you can deal with this.

Mental health treatment is free in many places.Please get some help and if you need to talk private ,you can PM me on this site.
Michele

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Originally Posted by hayhay1266

I am looking to be a serigant mother.

I am 19 years old ad have had my own healthy daughter already.
I have no mental illnesses or any health probeblems. I need to do this or else
I'll be on the street and I'd like to help other people know the joys of having their own family. Does anyone know where I can become a serigant mother in california?

I'm confused. Are you also hunter88? If so, how can you believe you have no health problems when you are turning blue. And what are you doing even thinking about marijuana at the same time you are thinking of being a surrogate mother?

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Originally Posted by hunter88

I had to make another name to even look at the answers i got. this is hayhay1266. I did have to give up my daughter right after i had her. I didn't want to put my daughter on the street. So i put her up for adoption. I know what the emotional stress is like.

hunter88 and hayhay1266 same person?

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Originally Posted by hunter88

I had to make another name to even look at the answers i got. this is hayhay1266. I did have to give up my daughter right after i had her. I didn't want to put my daughter on the street. So i put her up for adoption. I know what the emotional stress is like.

Why did you have to make another name?

Some how I think you think you would get rich if you become a surrogate mother. News flash agency don't let anyone become one. A reputable agency would do a physical and go through all types of testing, including a drug. Even mental! Being a surrogate mother isn't a meal ticket.

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artlady agrees: She just gave up a baby for adoption,this child needs some guidance.I hope we can help

I agree with you Artlady but I realize that in order to be able to help someone they have to want that help and want to change their situation their in.

The OP stated she wants to be a surrogate mother so she would've a place to live but this shouldn't be her only option just for a place to live. HayHay, if you were to be interview to become a surrogate mother and they asked you "why do you want to become a surrogate" and you gave them that answer-- they would look at you like your crazy.

If your about to be or are homeless maybe you should go to a shelter if you can't stay with a friend or relative. That's what they are there for.

Also, counseling would do you justice or even becoming part of a support group that walked in your shoes. Giving up a baby is hard because it is a very emotional experience and keeping those feeling bottle up isn't good. You can call 1-800-999-9999 or 1-800-273-talk they might be able to help you find free counseling in your are. Also, you can tried to Google some.

Another thing you might want to consider is JobCorp. It doesn't have to be now but another option to explore. They offer free room and board while your taking a trade. You can even take your GED if you don't already have one. They have counselors too and planned actitive weekends actitives. My cousin just finish and they helped her find a job + housing and even a car to get around. So it is something worth looking into to help brighten your future.

Again, I agree with Artlady that you need help and hopefully your ready and open to receive it. Best of luck!