I have two child 2 1/2 and 1yrs old and after I had the second child I did like have sex that much. But now my sex drive has pick back up.and my fiancée don't want to give it to me any more. Do you think he is cheating on my, because is never in the mood anymore?

I don't necessarily think that he's cheating on you. He might just be stressed from the kids and other priorities, or just too tired from his day. Have you discussed this issue with him?

I agree with CM.

You do need to talk to him and ask him why he hasn't been in the mood. When you do ask him make sure it's not right after work, ask him when the kids are napping or down for the night, basically when everything is in a relaxed setting and you both are able to communicate clearly.

Remember don't make it a blaming game, the conversation will just turn sour. Instead of saying "Why don't you ___________" You should ask "Remember when we used to ____ , how come that doesn't happen anymore?" or "I'm quite concerned about our lack of sex, could you please tell me how you feel about our sex life and what we can do to better it, do you have any suggestions or ideas? what's your take?"

Be clear, have an open mind and lastly don't jump to conclusions [that would be your downfall].
MRS.S

Thanks guys I really hope talking to him work. Because I really need it more. Or if not I'm going to take a trip to an adult store and get some toy for myself.

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Originally Posted by ashears

Thanks guys I really hope talking to him work. Because I really need it more. Or if not im going to take a trip to an adult store and get some toy for my self.

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You should do this anyway :D Toys can also spice up a bland sex life!

My financee and I have 2 kids, 3 and 1, and I got to say - by the time the second one is in bed and asleep I want nothing more than to rest/sleep. Making matters worse, the next day is only a few hours away...

So if his life is anything like mine, he isn't cheating... he doesn't have time to cheat. He's just friggin tired. :)

You have to make a life for yourself other than the kids... get some goals and fun activities... a therapist will help you. You have to make yourself an interesting person... you can't rely on just sex to hold someone's interest.

Best wishes, :)

Many things, when you were not wanting it, it got into the habit of not having it, while men joke, there is not a automatic off/on buttom for them either.

Also there is the issue of perhaps he is afraid of having another child, if that is still possible, he could be concerned over that

He does work really long hours and he help out a lot around the house with the kids so may be I'm just looking into way too much