I've been dating this girl for about 6 months now.. and I think that she wants to break up with me, I haven't done anything to be mean to her in anyway and watched my mouth before I could have said anything that could upset her,but for the last week or two she's been commenting on other guys looks such as calling them hot or sexy in front of me, she knows it bothers me but has never shown any concern for my feelings, I told a friend its been bothering me that I can't make a comment on one girl such as she is pretty which I never do because she's the only girl for me,but she doesn't respect my feelings and says what she wants. Im not sure if she wants a break up or not.. but I don't know if I could handle being without her any advice please

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Originally Posted by NoctisImmortal

ive been dating this girl for about 6 months now..and i think that she wants to break up with me, i havent done anything to be mean to her in anyway and watched my mouth before i could have said anything that could upset her,but for the last week or two she's been commenting on other guys looks such as calling them hot or sexy in front of me, she knows it bothers me but has never shown any concern for my feelings, i told a friend its been bothering me that i can't make a comment on one girl such as she is pretty which i never do because shes the only girl for me,but she doesnt respect my feelings and says what she wants. Im not sure if she wants a break up or not..but i dont know if i could handle being without her any advice please

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Just a question for you: What exactly do you have to lose by her breaking up with you? What EXACTLY do you have to gain if she doesn't break up with you?

If I was treated this way, I would have done the breaking up part myself, about 5 1/2 months ago...

How old are you?

What types of guys does she say are hot? Ones she knows or movie star types?

.. id lose the love of my life and I don't want that to happen..

You can't be so in love with her when you clearly are so insecure with yourself.

At the pure mention that other guys might be hot you get insecure and angry that she isn't respecting "your feelings"? Just because you love her doesn't mean that she will stop noticing other people and it doesn't mean that she will cheat.

Have you tried talking to her? It might be that now she feels comfortable expressing herself around you now. How would she know what is hurting you and what isn't if you don't open your mouth and say something instead of keeping things bottle up inside.

I made comments about guys to my fiancé all the time and just because I do that it doesn't mean I want out of the relationship. Talk, talk, talk to your girlfriend asap.

It sounds like immature head games.

She is insecure about your relationship so she is trying to see if you love her.If you act jealous than she thinks that is a sign of love.It is not.

When I read the topic I figured you'd have some information backing up you suspicion. Her commenting on other guys is hardly an indication of her wishing to leave. Usual indications are her spending more time with friends, not calling you as often, not being eager to spend time with you, etc,etc.

I do understand that her saying things like this make you uncomfortable, but hey, she must find you attractive too right?

I'd ask her why it is acceptable for her to point out good looking guys and not acceptable if you do, ask her how she would feel if you started pointing out hot girls in front of her.

Just a note, even if she says point out these girls I would strongly advise you fall silent.

6months my friend is normal the cut off point for a relationship by that I mean.. the spark is over. And then. If you guys are both willing to work for a goal together that's when trust.. and all the other great stuff come into play..

it seems that this relationship was only at the honey moon stage.. which is normal for a lot of relationships

hell most last only 3months

so you may feel like you are in love.. and I can honestly say I have loved so many women. In my time and I always.. and I mean always thought they were the one..

but here is the thing. I learnt that no one is the one.
the sooner you learn that. The easy things will come =)

all the best my friend

Maybe its you who can't handle the way she is.

She doesn't sound like the love of your life to me, because you sound very insecure, and inexperienced.

You expect a lot from a 6 month relationship, but actually your still learning each other.