I have hated my dad ever since I knew what he was like, he is arragant, mean and blames me for everything. I want to get adopted but I still adore my mum. I am tied and feel lonely. My dad is lazy, treats my family badly and takes everything out on me because I am the youngest (15), I have tried talking to him but he won't have none of it, he just shouts and sends me up the stairs, I know I am too young to be on here but I desparately need help and this is the best place, by machure adults please help me

My dad is EXACTLY the same way. I used to get so annoyed by him that now I just don't talk to him. This way he doesn't yell at me all the time and I don't hate him as much because he doesn't yell at me. My dad's arrogance used to bother me too, but I have decided that his personality doesn't have anything to do with mine and he can't help that he's crazy. My dad is also the laziest person on earth like your dad and he treats everyone in our family like crap. My parents don't like each other at all. I also love my mom so I spend more time with her than my dad. I don't think you should leave just because your dad is mean. Don't let him bother you. When he yells at you just stay cool and ignore the irrelavent things he says. Don't argue because he's just going to become more impatient. You don't have to talk to him because people like him have a serious social disorder and get angry very easlily. It is very hard to talk out things with people like that. Just don't let it bug you and pretend he isn't there.

Im the opposite I don't know my dad but my mom was the way you describe your dad. Whether you like it or not just be glad your father is in your life. There are so many Dad's out there that run away from the responsibility of raising a child. It's hard to understand when you don't have your own kids.Try writing him a letter if you can't talk to him.. Its a good way to put your feelings out there especially when you can't find the right words to say. Maybe he's really stressed out and he shouldn't be taking it out on you.

Or no fathers at all!

I think you r only person who can help u. u should keep yourself busy in your own work. Try 2 make your future, do any part time job with your studies. Tat would make your future bright. N also u can stay out of home which will keep u away from your dad.
He is your dad. Now after so many years of him with his behavior u can't change his nature.
So that's better to stay away n make yourself happy.

My kids father is exactly like your dad except he hates me to I believe that's why he hates our kids xoxoxolove gave you some good advise I just wish my son would take that advise like I have at least until I can move us away from him he's always yelleing at our kids especially when his daughter comes over my 3yr old says she hates him because he's mean and my 8 yr old says he makes him so mad that he wants to kill himself

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Originally Posted by katiesxx

i have hated my dad ever since i knew what he was like, he is arragant, mean and blames me for everything. i want to get adopted but i still adore my mum. i am tied and feel lonely. my dad is lazy, treats my family badly and takes everything out on me because i am the youngest (15), i have tried talking to him but he wont have none of it, he just shouts and sends me up the stairs, i know i am too young to be on here but i desparately need help and this is the best place, by machure adults please help me

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Kayiesxx, when you talk to him, only talk to him about nuetral subjects that don't require any action from him. Maybe you can at least create a nuetrally based relationship. Talk to him about things he knows about. . At first. Establish some sort of a trust by him that you are not critiquing him. From the sound of the situation, It may take some time.
There are thousands of people in very stressful situations now during this recession.

Before you do this.. . Get settled in your own head that you are secretly trying in a way that he won't even realize to smooth things over a bit. If anything good is going to come from this, Be prepared to take some abuse at first, and YOU are going to have to be the stronger person. Inside of yourself. You know.. . Inner strength.

Try it for a while and see if you notice any slight differences. Let those differences (good or bad ) be your guide as to whether you'll continue trying. From what you have said, it might be a hopeless case but if he's your flesh and blood, it might be worth trying for a while. Only you can make that decision.


Best of Luck and don't get hooked into a confrontation.. . Even though he might be the same way he always is.
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One person that I hate is my father . When I see him my heart becomes full with sorrow. I hate him more than anything. I cnt even express what's in me. Because when I think about him. I feel a deep pain right between my chest. I hate the fact he always has something 2 blame me on , he doesn't even check the facts. He comes flying lyk a boieng 747 jet. I admit I do mistakes in life .but he makes me feel lyk my whole life it's a mistake. He never appriciate what I do . I try my best to please him. But I can't because what eva is it I tried 2 do has some fault. Its lyk he wants me to live life lyk he lived it . Tht I know its impsible. And I hate that he is cheating my mom. I can't tell my mom because I know she won't beilive me, plus my mom got some health problems I am afraid she might die because of the stress. Every time when he opens his mouth ,I feel lyk killing him. If I try to make a decision in life , he's going 2 surport me. Wait until it back fires, he tells me the way he warned me. Its lyk HE IS THE MOST PERFECT HUMAN BIENG IN THE WORLD he neva does mistakes. I hate it when he compares me 2 thugs and other bad people. Its lyk he only expects failure from my action. I don't know weather they treated him lyk that at his home .I hate it. Because it lyk he's taking out all of his past on me. I don't know its because he isn't human bieng. But he always tells me the way I stink,I don't know if that's a way 2 talk to a 16 old boy bt what I know is that no öne lyks it. He is the only person I hate thinking about.. Why doesn't he live and he must go and live with that slut jane. Maybe they will make something out of their live.my hopes got very high this year when I heard I was finally leaving home. At least 2mnths without that bastard. I so hate him. And I know he hates me 2.

Have you tried telling your mum how you feel? Is there a family relative or someone at school like a school counsellor that you can talk things through with. Being a teenager is hard. Being the parent of a teenager is also hard. Sometimes parents don't handle it very well. As the adult he should be trying to control his temper and act more reasonably but parents are human and get it wrong sometimes. Try and find an adult you can talk about this with who can advise you and might be prepared to help your dad understand how you are feeling too.

Sorry I only just realised how long it is since the OP posted. However the advice to the last poster would be roughly the same. I would add that him cheating on your mum is obviously not nice but I'm afraid that is something your mum and day really need to work out for themselves. I know it is making you feel really bad but hang in there whilst they sort it out and the dust settles.

Honey, I just know perfectly how you feel. My dad is a gambler.. he took all our energy and money !
The only think that can make you feel better is... that uve got a future.. U can change your life
U can find a good job and be better than your father.
That is what I'm doing... Ur still young.. u have an amazing life in front of u.. Do not let any one put you down !
Coz you are just amazing d way you are :)
Much care... xxxx

Honey, I just know perfectly how you feel. My dad is a gambler.. he took all our energy and money !
The only think that can make you feel better is... that uve got a future.. U can change your life
U can find a good job and be better than your father.
That is what I'm doing... Ur still young.. u have an amazing life in front of u.. Do not let any one put you down !
Coz you are just amazing d way you are :)
Much care... xxxx

I know exactly how you feel. Whenever there are encounters, me and my dad talking, it's either I get embarrassed, or get annoyed with his arrogance. He feels as if he knows everything. He disregards others' opinion because he thinks he is always right. He is very lazy. He doesn't have initiative and doesn't help much here at home. Most of the time, he is irascible. My mom is the one working for the whole family while my dad is here at home, making himself very comfortable and spending money that my mom earns. He doesn't take responsibility seriously. And even if he has four kids, I don't think he even knows what he's supposed to do with us. I just hate him.

But I guess, I'm lucky enough to have my mom working for us. I'm lucky that I got to go to school and I finished school. I still think my dad is useless. And I will try my very best to succeed in whatever I do.

My dad is crazy, he brutally beats me when I did nothing wrong. What an *******. I hope he goes to hell. He is a alcoholic, *****y piece of ****, he is angry all the time. Hope you die and go to hell dad, **** my own man.

I hate my dad because I was checking my email and I have 139 emails and I told my sister and my dumbass dad heard and don't click there going to get the PC a virus

Girl, I haven't read all the comments, but be careful. Cyber-predators are just looking to be "friends" with a troubled teenager like yourself. Listen to the advice that sounds wise. But give your personal info to ABSOLUTELY NO ONE! This is exactly the place where there might be a wolf in sheep's clothing giving you very nice and warm advice.

Read Proverbs. Take heed on what it says, you'll find it logical when you see good and bad people around you. I'm not talking religion. That book is just the perfect advice there is that has withstood all time. If when you're done you want to read the Gospels, do so. There's great advice there. Whatever you do, do it for love. Don't let hate grow in your heart, it's the worst disease there can be, think of it as "soul cancer". Having a great excuse to hate might be understandable, but that doesn't make it any less damaging. Read the book. It'll show you why your dad is the way he is, compare what it says with his life history and you'll know what NOT to do so you don't end up the same.

God bless you child.

Hi!I really really hate my father.I have completed mca but even with lot of efforts I didn't got a good job and for this my idoit father always yells at me that I was a dump that's why I didn't get a good job.when he gets angry he uses bad words.at this age also he beats my mother and also me.I reallyreallyreallyreallyreallyreallyreallyreallyre allyreallyreallyreallyreallyreallyreallyreallyreal lyreallyreallyreallyreallyreallyreallyreallyreally really hate my father...

If got a dad like that to things he's god and knows it all and worse is he keeps blaming me for everythng that goes wrong in his life like we are 300 euro in red your fault you use to mutch power get a job lazy *** so I try and try to get a job but whit this job market it isn't easy so he yells all you do is sit on your *** in the old days(another anoying things he keeps comparing everything with the past and his childhood)wework and work and go out all the time
But dad its 2010 dammit don't compare my childhood to yours its not fair he nags he nags he complains and blames me and my mom for all he's mr prefect that knows it all I say your not god he says god is an ******* having you was a mistake we weren't even trying your brother this your brother that your sister this I'm the younges my brothr the oldest and my sister the iddle one my mom dident even knew se was pregnant of me if feel so unwanted by him I keep having the urge to slice his troat and say who's perfect now but I haf a darling girlfrend who makes my dad and I just forget about it so if you don't haf a girlfrend or a friend try to find a hobby that doesent cost money so you don't haf to ask for his money(sorry for my typos I'm dutc and haf an crapy keyboard)

OMG my family is the same thing. He is an useless idiot who have to depend on my mother since he has no education and my mum is his 2nd wife, not sure what my mum sees in him. He often hit me and scold me names too! I HATE HIM SO DAMN MUCH AND WISH HE COULD JUST DIE

Listen up,you should be happy,I know this is the most stupid thing to say right now,but guess what,my dad is the same,I'm 19 and I'm studying and he blames me for every single thinggggggg! He s like DIAL THIS NUMBER,BRING ME A GLASS OF WATER,WAKE UP AND GET ME SOME BREAKFAST
I hate his voice I hate his face I hate everything about him.he s cheating on my mom,and not only with one girl,my mum wants to get divorce but she cant,she doesn't work and we are financially dependent on him.see? That's the biggest problem! He s sooooooo rich we live in a good house but that's all his.
Sometimes I look down the window and just wonder what if I could jump out of this window? Then I think about my mum who I adore,and my little brother
Sometimes I want to marry a rich old man and get rid of him.
That's because I live in another country in which being divorced means.. don't know what to say,BAD ! Just that,and if they get divorce my little bro should live with my dad till he gets 18!
And he cannot do it:(
Just be strong! I know someday its going to be all right! Although it hurts so much but you have to be strong and help your mum so you could get out of this life.
Its you that can help yourself
Just try to be the most successful person ever and help your mum this way
OK?
TAKE CARE BABY! I know its too hard to handle this but I know you and I can do it!

Pray to God that May God Almighty guide him towards right path. Do not take stress my father is the worst creature living on the earth I always pray to God May he die a Dog's death. He is cheater he is rapist, gambler, gay, murder, he abuses me my family he beat my mom with cane and slap her with boots on her face. All her body is blue and green with the marks of his violence. He wasted all my moms property on his these activities and today he left the house leaving all us alone May he die a Dog's death.