So, my boyfriend and i have been together a little over a year. I started dating him very shortly after the end of a four year relationship. He treats me amazing, does everything for me. I should be grateful. Problem is, although i know i love him, and respect him greatly, i don't enjoy being around him. Everytime he touches me I get frustrated and push him off. We barely ever have sex anymore ( my doing ). And even sitting next to him annoys me. I love this man. But maybe my body's telling me it's time to move on. I'm very upset with myself for hurting his feelings. What's wrong with me, and what can do ???

Rebound...

Tell him the truth, and end this. Nothing wrong with not feeling someone. Better to let him know now rather than string him along.

I have to agree, if you feel like this don't prolong the pain.

Definitely sounds like a rebound, end it to save both people a lot of pain

It doesn't even sound like you love him, even though you keep saying that.

Everyone's right about this one. It'd be in your best interest to stay single for a long time, otherwise you'll fall right back into another one of these relationships over and over again.

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Originally Posted by I wish

It doesn't even sound like you love him, even though you keep saying that.

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There is truth to this. I think you care deeply for him, and love him as a person, but you aren't in love with him.

Give this up, and be single, as your not ready for a relationship, You just don't want to be alone. Why should he suffer for your problems?

I agree with the others. This is not healthy for either of you. I would also like to add, please don't give him the old "it's not you it's me" speech, or "we need a break" speech. Be as kind as you can, but be honest and upfront. Although, don't be brutally honest. There is no reason to let him know that you can't stand for him to touch you, or you to be near him.

I also think you are using the words, "I love him" very carelessly. I do believe you care for and respect him, but you do not love him, at least in that sense.

I think its time to break up hunny, better now then when your relationship is worse, your heart is telling you, you don't love him and I think its time to listen to your heart

Oh my, this is rare. In fact I don't believe I've ever heard anything like it. He treats you amazingly (apparently) and yet you're annoyed at him. Hm. Does he remind you of anybody you have some negative feelings for? If not, and I almost never ever recommend this as a cure, maybe your body needs sex. I wish I could help more, message me on AIM, I could use more information.

-Mouse