Just over a week ago my boyfriend split up with me, I had noticed the relationship had changed but when we were together it always seemed fine, in fact just before we split up we were lay with each other with him telling me he loves me :confused: we got into an argument where I said I was leaving to go home he begged me not to go and told me he loves me, I said do you think we should split up and he said no, once again telling me how much he loves me. Then the next thing he told me it was over. I was in complete shock and acted irrationally, crying and pleading with him, he was one minute being nasty with me and shouting, but the next he was hugging me, wiping away my tears and crying, when I left he even kissed me! He told me he may realise what an idiot he's been and want me back. That night he went out and after that he completely changed! We go to the same college so I see him everyday, he began hanging around with these girls he always used to slag off and even flirting with one of them telling her she's beautiful, this was a kick in the face as he told me he wanted to be single, but more surprises where to come. Just 2 nights ago he was with these girls and pranked me 3 times, laughing down the phone, all his friends think he is being out of order, but he doesn't care, he has isolated himself from his friends and been totally sucked in by these girls who are being horrible tome in in college, glaring at me and laughing and talking about me really loud. I was told by one of his friends that he doesn't want a relationship with this girl, he just wants to sleep around, he told me he wasn't that sort of person and that wasn't why he wanted to be single, it seems all he ever said to me were lies, we used to be so in love and happy, he was infactuated with me, everyone saw it. But now he seems so different, and he has even began to lose his true friends. Despite all this, I'm worried for him, and I still want him back, but it seems so hard when he just seems to hate me so much. Sorry about that essay, and if you have took the time to read it I very much appreciate it.

There is no reason for you to try to get an ex back. Let the ex go. It is not worth it. You need to heal and move on and realize there is a reason why this person is considered an ex. You were both acting desperate, pleading and begging. Not healthy.

Joe

I acted like that the moment he split up with me, after that I did not speak to him, in college I made it seem although I'm getting on with my life without him, yet seeing him and remembering the way we wer a matter of weeks ago is so painful. I still love him, to me he was perfect.

Rebecca.

No one is perfect. You will find somebody else. Let him to his own vises and you can learn from this experience. Good that your getting on or making seem like your getting on without him which you should truly be doing anyway.

Yes, you might have had a great relationship in the past. But that's the past. He's not the same person as he was when you guys were dating.

No one is perfect. He's moved on with his life and so should you.

But if he's so moved on, why is he taking the time to prank call me? And get them girsl tof orce so much hate on me? Shouldn't he just have no emotion towards me whatsoever

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but i can't help but feel that if hes moved on, why is he taking the time to prank call me and make them girls put so much hate on me. this is all so confusing.

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He's moved on in the sense that he obviously doesn't like you the way he used to. If you really like or love someone, you should show them more respect than that.

I guess we're saying that you can do better.

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to me he was perfect.-

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you are a victim of rose tinted glasses, he does not sound perfect. I think you need to let him go, give yourself time to heal. It's a shame he is being immature, as his behavior is confusing you.

As for him changing, it happens to the majority of people a victim of break ups. We discover a new person who we don't recognize, there new ways and behavior is alien to us. The only thing we can do is accept it and move on.

Think about his behavior, is this really acceptable to you, Do you want a man that purposely hurt you? Aims his immaturity at you.His behavior should be enough to turn you of him.

You shared some good times, and now he has gone from perfect to an immature idiot. Not your fault or problem. Maybe changing your number or something will stop the childish crank calls of his kiddie friends and him.

His behavior should be enough motivation, to stay the heck out of Dodge.

The answer is, if he's a different person you should leave him alone. It won't turn out well. Period.

-Mouse