OK well
My ex and I have been through a lot of things.
A quick summary.I've known this guy for about 8 yrs now.We were together for 3 years.But its been a year since we broke up.
The thing is that we stopped talking after we broke up, for about 4 months. We started talking afterwards he was doing really bad, drinking partying... etc.. And I was absolutely stable, still felt something for him, but didn't want to push things. We started hanging around since he told me he needed help, that he needed a friend to talk to who was not into all the partying stuff, so he asked me if I wanted to be his "best friend again" well he acted all weird he made it seem like if he still felt something for me, he would get jealous if I talked to other guys and stuff. He even went crazy on me a couple of times... (made me cry) I was stupid enough to continue on with this thing, because he would always tell me (crying), that I was the only good thing that he had, that if I wasn't by his side he was going to do something stupid. So I always stood next to him no matter what.
Well the thing is that instead of me pulling him into the good, he dragged me into the bad. We started having sex. At first I did feel bad but then it became something usual.
I felt him change he wasn't that interested in me as before (for obvious reasons)
But either way I was always there whenever he needed me.ALWAYS.he didn't have car then, so I can say I helped him A lot.
Well he got his license back, I started working and we didn't see each other that much. We still talked on the phone even slept together on the phone and everything but it all changed when he wouldn't pick up my phone calls. Then I started not answering his and so on. We talked about this issue and everything was OK. But after that talk when everything was suppose to be OK he suddenly stopped talking to me.I called him but he wouldn't pick up. So I supposed hi didn't want to talked to me.So I stopped calling him. He called me 2 weeks later, telling me that we needed to stop seeing each other and talking too much.(because we were having too much sex). Well I kind of understood that part, but I was still mad since he didn't even let me know about this "decision" he left me hanging for 2 weeks. Well a month passes by (this is when I needed him the most, I had a lot of issues in my family and needed a friend more than anything) a month passes by and then he calls me apologizing for not being there and trying to come up with lame excuses. I told him that now the one that needed the "time" was me. So I asked him to stop talking to me. That I would call him one day. Well he said the same thing as before, I'm going to do stupid things and you are going to regret not talking to me, I'm going to have a lot of anger against you... blah blah... I didn't fall for it this time. So since that didn't work he tried to be nice and invited me to go out to dinner and blah blah.. I didn't fall for this one either. But he said he was going to bug me until I forgave him. Well he didn't bug me at all. I mean he didn't call me asking for forgiveness. Instead he called me at 3 am one Saturday night.I picked up first but then hung up. He sent me a text apologizing for this the next morning, and then a few hours later he called me, I was at a concert, I picked up but as soon as I found out it was him(I don't have his number stored in my phone) I hung up. He called like about 3 times. And then sent me a stupid text telling me all this crap, that he had a girlfriend that he was partying that day that he called, that he was going to live life to the fullest with out me, that he didn't need me, that he was tired of calling me (it was 3 calls.. :S ) but he was tired, oh yeah and he asked to never call him again!!
He also sent me a message through myspace but I didn't open it. I don't have him as my friend but he put a display picture were he is at a club with this girl...
I do not know what to do!! I miss him so much. I need him so much. But I know that if I know he has a girlfriend or he is going out with all this girls is going to hurt.plus the fact that he wasn't there when I need him really left me hurt, because I was there whenever he needed me. He made it seemed like he used me...
I work with his parents and apparently he is going to work there next year.
I been there for 3 yrs already.
I don't know how and when things are going to end up.
I'm tired of this crap already. But I really love him...
help... :s
what should i do??:confused:

Okay... no contact. It will get easier. Go the high road on this one. He is like a bad drug. You feel better for a while after a hit but then you come down from the high and feel worse.

Have strength, we have all been there where you are. Find people to be your friends who lift you up, not drag you down.

Hang tough!!

Click on this link:

NC Rules and FAQ

Doing this will help you get through this rough period.

kctiger is spot on. The guideline is very detailed on no contact.

I also recommend this: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...ed-123862.html

A very well-written post that will tell you which phase you are in.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...up-178368.html

That's how this whole mess started, and hopefully it ends now, as this was one dysfuntional union, between two dysfunctional people, who need some help.

First, get a job away from his family. At least that helps cut the ties, and that's what you need for a fresh start.

No. No, no, no. That guy doesn't deserve your love. He's a bad kid, manipulative, and probably mentally ill. Stay away from him as much as possible. About this work thing, you can work there and simply ignore him (which might actually end up getting you hurt or killed if he is mentally ill) or leave your job and find a new one. I'd recommend leaving the job. Please stay safe and away from him.

-Mouse