Why do guys have to be like this ?
Hey everyone;
This is sort of a long story so I'll just cut to the chase. I was in a casual relationship with this guy. We started hanging out at the end of summer as friends then we took it a little further. As this started happening I also moved 2 hours away for school. We spoke everyday and saw each other almost every weekend.
This past month things have changed. He's suddenly become a workaholic and is super busy all the time. He wants to start his own business. Making money is his number 1 priority right now. I'm glad he's doing what he wants and is working hard to get it (although he doesn't seem happy because he's always tired and frustrated). My main focus now is school and being able to pay my bills. Neither of us want to lose sight of what we want in our lives by being tangled up in some lovey-dovey romance which is why I liked what we had.
I haven't seen him in about a month and the last time I went into town we barely got to see each other because he was so busy. It was almost a joke... we met somewhere to eat a quick meal and it felt like it lasted 5 minutes. He looked so worn out and exhausted. When we parted he told me he wasn't sure when our schedules would let us meet again but we'll still talk like we always do.
Now instead of talking every day it's just a couple times a week. Usually sparked by me asking him how everything is going. A couple times he did send me a text first to see how something went.
I don't want to be annoying, but I can't figure out if he even wants to talk to me. He might be responding just to be nice. So I'm thinking of just not sending him any and seeing if he contacts me first. We haven't texted in over a week (which is the longest we've gone without speaking). Is that a good idea? I don't want to make this a big deal. I'm still living my life normally and not really letting it get to me. It's not the end of the world. I can't help but miss him sometimes and I don't want to lose a friend.
I just hate how guys don't talk about stuff. They just let something fade out and hope us girls 'get it' and figure it out for ourselves. I hate assuming things which is why stuff like this bothers me. Everything points in one obvious direction: what we had is fading and we're both heading in opposite directions. I just wish he'd say something to me then just slowly disapearing. I don't even know if I should still call him my boyfriend. Does he still consider me his girlfriend? I don't know.
Sorry for my rambeling. Just had to get some things out there and see what others thought about the situation.