hi everyone!

Here is my story... for which I need your adivice my brothers and sisters!

Well I have been diagnosed with a deficieny in producing testesterone! Yes and I now take it externally. My penis measures 6-7 cms i.e. 2-2.5 inches and is thick! OK now also apart from that I have been diagnosed as of now with very low rather nil sperm count so.. which means that i cannot father a child!!

Now you all there can you feel my predicament!! What I am going through!! Now now now, the urologist whom I consulted has said that i can satisfy well and my size is enough but he said that by regular injections of testesterone the size may increase a little further, he beinga great specialist on his field also said that a size never matters at all only a good erection matters! Let me tell you I have good erection! Yes I have it well by god's grace.

Now, i m in love with a girl from past 7 years and we by God's Grace know each other well love each other a lot!! I very honestly told her the issue that I may not be able to father a child!! And she undertsood my predicament and said that she is very well fine with it and has no problems at all. (God bless her and our loving relationship). (we did get physical recently and thoroughly enjoyed it! But did not involve penetrative one because we wanted to get marrtied and then do it)

MY ANXIETY: friends these two aspects i.e. the size and the fathering of child are really affecting me a lot, I'm really worried, tell me any female member here, what would have you all done if you were in love with a person like me? does size really matters so much? isnt my size enough? (though i feel so it is enough) can a husband and wife accept the fact of no child and still be happy and loving together?

please i request you all to be my good friends and give a honest and good opinion please, god bless you all for helping me! I'm fine and I'm still smiling :) because I have friends like you all!

Size matters little. A smaller size may restrict you from using certain positions, but I'm sure you can find some that will satisfy you both.

The not being able to father a child is a harder issue. Your girl may say now thast it doesn't matter, but when the maternal instinct hits she may have a harder time coping.

But there are many ways you can have a child. In vitro, sperm donors, adoption, etc. So your condition does not mean you have to remain childless.

If you've talked it over with your partner, then of course you can go on to have a loving relationship and marriage. Many people accept that they may not have children and still decide to get married. It's obvious that she loves you very much and isn't bothered by your size.

Size doesn't have a bearing on being able to father a child, as long as one of your sperm reaches her egg. Since your doctor said you have a low sperm count, that's where the difficulty may lie. It may take you longer to get her pregnant.

Well to me size does matter but luckily this day and age there are many toys and things you can use out there to stimulate the woman you love more than you can yourself physically. I suggest using vibrators and lots of oral. Try to make sure she gets off before you do... also if she is fine with not having any children then your marriage should work. And if she changes her mind one day there is always adoption which can be very beautiful.

Size does NOT matter...a man with a large penis that can't figure out how to use it will do a woman no good...but a man with a smaller penis with a LOT of knowledge will staisfy a woman Well...make sure you know that if the woman loves you, size wont matter...

The size wouldn't be MY issue.

However--not having kids MIGHT be an issue.

Are you the kind of man that would be okay raising a child that wasn't biologically his? I know a lot of guys out there that would NOT be!

Fostering children, or using a sperm donor, or IVF are all possibilities.

HOWEVER--if you are absolutely NOT COOL with raising a child not biologically yours, you need to be up front about that with your woman.

I know several couples that are perfectly happy with no kids. I know several that are happy with kids. I know some that are miserable because they can't have kids, and some that are miserable because they have kids. Your relationship is what you and your partner make it to be. You need to be honest with each other and talk about it--but if you both really ARE okay with it, there's no reason for you not to be happy.

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Originally Posted by chrissymarie

well to me size does matter but luckily this day and age there are many toys and things you can use out there to stimulate the woman you love more than you can yourself physically. i suggest using vibrators and lots of oral. Try to make sure she gets off before you do... also if she is fine with not having any children then your marriage should work. and if she changes her mind one day there is always adoption which can be very beautiful.

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Oh you said size matters I mean that means do you honestly think a size of mine can satify you, because I heard that not many women climax through penetration they need hand and tongue! Just curious please answer?

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Originally Posted by imfine

oh you said size matters i mean that means do u honestly think a size of mine can satify you, coz i heard that not many women climax through penetration they need hand and tongue! just curious please answer?

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Women climax through clitoral stimulation. Penetration often does not stimulate the clitoris. Frankly, I was shocked at the answer that size would matter. Like I said, a smaller size will only limit the number of positions available.

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Originally Posted by imfine

oh you said size matters i mean that means do u honestly think a size of mine can satify you, coz i heard that not many women climax through penetration they need hand and tongue! just curious please answer?

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No I don't think your penis alone could satisfy me.. (if we are talking about a g-spot orgasm) My g spot is deep in my vagina... itakes at least 7 to 8 inches to get that sort of orgasm from me and that's the most intense orgasm I have. But I can get a clitoral orgasm from hand and tongue.

First of all, the cliltoris is stimulated by stroking in many positions. The inthrust pulls the labial skin... the hood is gently pulled over the head of the clitoris... and it gets stimulation. Women and men are so used to manhandling female genitals(the influence of porn?)which is not good... gentle stimulation is the key to great orgasms in a short period, my friends. Rough treatment only prolongs the time to hopefully! Reach orgasm in my opinion.

Anyway, I'm not in the sexual world anymore, but, size mattered to me. Not too big, and not too small(5-7 inches. Nice width). Many women feel otherwise. Different strokes for different folkes.

Since you are sterile, you have to disclose this to a woman if you want to get serious. Many women want to have their own children with their husband, but some don't. I didn't want to have children, and I didn't. My husband knew this when we married. :)

Good Luck to you! There is a lid for every pan, my friend. :)

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Originally Posted by chrissymarie

No I dont think your penis alone could satisfy me.. (if we are talking about a g-spot orgasm) My g spot is deep in my vagina...

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Didn't Kinsey prove that the vagina has no sexual sensory receptors?

Well all I know is the orgasm a big penis ( 7 to 9 inches) gives me is way stonger than the orgasm I get from oral or someone hand.

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Originally Posted by ScottGem

Didn't Kinsey prove that the vagina has no sexual sensory receptors?

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The Kinsey report is highly suspect and many years out of date.

As far as I know, there's no definitive proof either way about the "G-spot" and how it works for women--all the results from more recent studies have had varied results. It's the same thing as with "squirting"---not enough research to support ANY theory on it at this time.

Well since this is an area where its hard for me to have experience, I'll disengage ;)