Hey, I am new to this whole thing, but I need some help.

When I was 15 years old (almost 16), I started dating a guy. He was 18. We dated his last few months of high school. We dated the next 2 and a half years. This boy was my life. Everyone loved him, my family and my friends. He treated me like his princess and he gave me more love than anybody else. He was my best friend and he was with me everyday for 2 and a half yrs. I was in love with he boy and he was in love with me. End of my senior year came, and I decided to leave home and go to school 3 hrs away. He wanted to come so he transferred schools to stay with me. 2 weeks before we were leaving for school we began fighting over little, stupid things. He broke up with me within the next week, said he loved me stilll and didn't want anyone else, but he needed time to figure out life... anways it has been 6 months and we still hang out daily. We are both 3 hours from home and we are still best friends. I am just having a hrad time with it all cause it kills me to hang out with him, knowing he left me out of the blue. He tells me still that he wants to continue our friendship and he thinks someday he wants to try it again, but as for now he needs to be single and find himself. He has not even kissed a girl or dated anyone OR hooked up with anyone since we broke up. And I know that for a fact. He says he wants no one else. And I know all this cause he tells me and all his friends and family. We still hook up every once and awhile and it kills me inside. We are each others first, and he says its something special we share. I don't know what to do? I want him back, and I love the friendship we have but its killing me inside. Do I stick around? Leave him alone? Cause I want him back... I really do. And I believe he feels the same way.

No don't stick around waiting for someone else, life doesn't wait for you. Move on and go no contact with him so you can properly heal. Definitely stop hooking up with him!

Stop hooking up with him, if he says he needs space, he truly means it, you've been going for a long time and if he's feeling closed in space might be the best. Don't meet up with him anymore, after a while he'll figure out he wants you after all. However if he takes too much time you need to tell him so and move on no matter how hard it is for you, that'll get him moving

You should have giving up 2 in a half years ago. Honestly you should not have even dated.

2 and half yrs ago I should have given up? We dated then. We broke up 6 months ago.

I'm sorry, but I am going to have to agree with the others. You need to break away from this and at least give him something to miss. Tell him that you have to figure out where your life is going too. Will that be painful? Of course. But you need to do it, both for yourself and for him. He has got you on a string here. He's having his cake and eating it too... so to speak.

You are there for him, but he is not there for you in the way he should be. You are not going to get him back by hanging around and being his friend with benefits. It just doesn't work that way, I'm sorry to say. If somewhere down the line you get back together, great! But do not sit around waiting. Time does not wait for you, as mentioned above.

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Originally Posted by anzbananzoc

2 and half yrs ago i should have given up? we dated then. we broke up 6 months ago.

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Re Read my answer. Obviously the lines of communication has failed here. You should not have been dating him in the first place. That is why I said you should have left 2 in a half years ago. It should not have happened in the first place. Do you understand why I wrote it the way I did now.?

I understood what you meant JH76, I know that I never would have been allowed in that situation. It should not have happened.

When you break up, and still hang out, hook up, and still talk everyday, your not broken up.

Why play with yourself that way? You should have left each other alone 6 months ago, and had the space to heal, and let the emotional dust settle.

Of course its killing you now, so end this confusion, by getting away from each other.

Then he has a decision to make, to stay or go, and not just loiter in your life with no understanding.

Yes I understand now jh76
Thanks

And thanks to everyone else, especially talaniman. That really helped me. I feel like we are dating... and that's the problem