I'm his girlfriend, not his mother
I have been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for just over a year. He just turned 57 and I am almost 49. I must add that I have been widowed twice, the last time was in 2004. It seems that as the relationship has evolved, he has started looking at me more as a mother figure than a girlfriend and future wife. His mother is still living, and even though she lives several hundred miles away, they seem to have a good relationship. But he continues to forget to take his medication, and when I remark on this, his response is "I forgot and you are the only mommy I have now, you need to remind me". Also when we are at the grocery store, if I ask him what kind of fruit or snack he wants for the week, he usually responds with "You tell me what I need, you are the mommy" This is driving me crazy and I do not think I can handle much more of this. I don't know if I am doing something to add to this behavior, or if he is just a needy man with some sort of Mother complex. Please help me.