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  • Mar 19, 2009, 05:06 PM
    ledzepelinfreak
    Is my ex trying to get my attention?
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    Once I broke up with my boyfriend, he became a player. He started going out with some girl he barely even knows 2 days later and she breaks up with him 3 days into their relationship.

    His mom kicked him out of the house and he's been acting really depressed lately.

    IDK what to think. Im so confused.:confused:

    He called me last night and said that he wanted to jump off a building and he wanted to start cutting himself again. And he asked if I can get 4 people to tell him that they loves him and I ended up getting 7 or 8.

    I asked him if he wanted to kill himself because of his mom kicking him out and he didn't say anything back. I'm getting the feeling that he's depressed because I broke up with him. Because that's what happened with his last serious relationship.

    1 of my friends says that it's so obvious that he still likes me and 3 of my closest friends told me that he's defineltly trying to get my attention.

    At lunch whenever I came near him he put his head down and acted really depressed and ignored me when I asked him what's wrong. And when I was holding onto his arm, because I was trying to hug him. I swear he started rubbing my finger for a few seconds and remembered that were not together anymore and stopped right away. Is that weird?

    I need to talk to this dude that I have been dating. We really need to talk but I don't think he's going to be completely honest with me. How do I get him to say what he's really feeling so we can both move one. I want to let out all our anger, frustration, pain, sadness, and everything.

    How do I get him to admit the truth? Because I know he lies and I know when he lies.
    Sorry for this being really long. But I'm just soooo confused.
  • Mar 19, 2009, 05:22 PM
    nikosmom

    You know he lies... so he's not going to admit the truth.

    Why does it matter? He's your ex. You don't have to talk to him to move on. You just do it.

    You call one of your friends and vent... that's the best way to let out your feelings. Don't call, text, or go see him. Don't allow him to take up any more space in your mind.
  • Mar 19, 2009, 05:36 PM
    liz28

    Why do you even care about what your ex is "really" feeling?

    If you've anger, frustration, sadness, etc you need to find a positive way to let them go before it consume you and eat you up inside. Then the next thing you know your miserable or depress while he's out living it up.

    The past is the past so leave it there. No reasons to relive it. Time for you to let go all those feelings your feeling for him by truly letting him go. The only thing you do and learn from the relationship you had with him and know what your not going repeat when you enter a new one.

    Take the focus off him and put the focus on yourself.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 12:04 PM
    MiSSsy111222

    Why bother trying to find out the truth if he lies to you? You know his feeling, he doesn't want a relationship and he doesn't feel the same, if he did he wouldn't lie and he would try to make it work.

    You don't need the 'closure' to move on. Just doit. Create a new better you.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 04:38 PM
    talaniman

    The others are giving you good advice, so I can only add that he handles rejection badly, not your problem, so leave him alone. Let him deal with his own problems.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 07:06 PM
    heartbroke

    Hes trying to make you feel guilty for breaking up with him. This is not a healthy guy to be hanging around with.

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