I have a friend, she's gotten depressed and has asked for help. Id love to help her, but I myself am depressed... and I just need some things to say to her to help her out... can you give me some things to tell her to help her?
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I have a friend, she's gotten depressed and has asked for help. Id love to help her, but I myself am depressed... and I just need some things to say to her to help her out... can you give me some things to tell her to help her?
Well I can't tell you what to say if I don't know the situation
Why is she depressed? Is she going through stuff at home, with a boyfriend, school?
Has she told her parents, seen a doctor, talked to a therapist?
It's great that you want to help, and just being there for her and letting her be there for you is great, but both of you need more help then either of you can give each other.
Talk to your families, it could be a simply chemical imbalance and medication could help, or therapy.
Good luck.
Well, since we don't really know the situation we can't exactly answer. But I feel that first you should try to get yourself help and then try to handle her problems when your not in a bad place yourself... all you can do at this point is tell her what she needs to hear, be there for her, and not let her go and hopefully she'll do the same.
If she doesn't want to talk to a trusted adult she can always call 1-800-273-talk. They are open 24/7 and ready to talk to anyone that wants to talk when they feel they can't turn to nobody else. You can use it as well. Also, they've a nineline for stress out teens but I don't know the number.
I found it! The nineline number is 1-800-999-9999 and a lot of teens use this number. Again, it's open 24/7.
Okay, from the question before, she has already talked to her dad about it, and he isn't that much help and she said that medication would make her feel crazy, she really doesn't need enough help to go to theripy or anything like that, she just needs someone there for her and to give her advise, and same with me... and she comforts me allot.
Her situations are that, she likes this guy... she is more than madly in love with him, and he started going out with her worst enemy and he treats my friend like she doesn't exist, and another one of her situations is that, her sister treats her like she's worthless and her sister convinces her mom the same thing sometimes...
Now can I have advice please?
Ps. Thanks so much to those who try to help, this person I'm talking about is the most important person in my life and she's gotten me through allot, and I feel the need to repay her... so thank you all who read this and tried to give help. You people are awesome!!
Thanks... she doesn't know why she's depressed... she just feels like her life isn't worth it, she does OK, on and off, like me, one day she'll be happy, and the next she'll be miserable. And she don't know why.
I'm assuming she is the same age as you?
If she is uneasy about talking to her parents about it and going to a professional counselor, get her to talk to your school counselor.
She really needs to find out why she is feeling depressed which often can't be determined without talking to someone.
Once she realised what is making her so upset hopefully you two plus her counselor and parents can bring her out of this dark time :)
How old are the both of you?Quote:
Originally Posted by theresbeautyinu
She is 13 as she posted in another thread :)
Ah, well that speaks volumes! The horrors of the teen hormone rush starting.Quote:
Originally Posted by shazamataz
She's almost 13 and I am 13. I can't tell her to go to a counselor. I love her and care about her and all that, but if I'm going through the same thing... it wouldn't be right.
I think she might need someone to vent. Sometimes that's what people need.
When I was 13 I was really depressed and I was begging for my friends to listen to me (talking to my parents just ended in screaming and slamming-doors), but my friends were a little scared because they didn't know how to handle it.
Talk to her first, about whatever is making her depressed that day, and then think about a counselor.
My friend went to a counselor and told her about my depression, and even though I appreciate her intentions, I'm still angry at the fact she didn't try talking to me first and took the easy way out.
Maybe both of you taking turns to vent will help both of you release any frustration or anger or whatever you're suppressing (which is usually what triggers depression... suppressing some feeling)
mmk, thanks =)
No problem :D I hope I was of some help :D... hope you and your friend feel better.Quote:
Originally Posted by theresbeautyinu
mhmm, we've been getting through our problems together now... and I got to see both of us smiling yesterday =)
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