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  • Mar 18, 2009, 02:58 PM
    meme8994
    Could he go to jail?
    My sister is 15 and her boyfriend is 19. My parents love him. And my sister just found out she's pregnant! I know my mom or dad wouldn't turn him in. but can somebody else turn him in if the parents DONT complain? how would someone know though? We live in Illinois. What could happen. I need all details. And she won't get an abortion! So what will happen?
  • Mar 18, 2009, 05:03 PM
    cdad

    She is pregnant and it most likely will be reported. Why are her parents allowing her any where near a 19 year old ? In almost all states I can think of that's statatory rape at a minimum.

    By her parents not reporting it they could be charged with aiding and abbedding and could also go to jail or prison. They need to come clean with this situation.
  • Mar 18, 2009, 05:09 PM
    stevetcg

    What state are we talking about?
  • Mar 19, 2009, 03:02 PM
    cdad
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by stevetcg View Post
    What state are we talking about?

    PSST.. I think this might be a good guess from the OP's post.. lol


    " we live in illinois "
  • Mar 20, 2009, 06:57 AM
    stevetcg

    Im not sure how it is in IL but a date of birth of the parents was required for the birth certificate in MA. So the hospital might notice it. When he disappears and child support is ordered, someone may notice. A passing comment, pregnancy hormones, a bad day... anything might lead to someone finding out.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 07:20 AM
    ANB428

    This same situation happened to my daughter's father. After I left him, he got with a 15 year old and she ended up getting pregnant. He was 19 years old. Unfortunantly he did not go to jail because of this, but he lived in California and it may not have been reported. He probably just got lucky because in Alabama the age for consent is 16 years old. So, I am not sure about in IL. I hope things work out for your sister.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 07:25 AM
    ScottGem

    The doctor may be required by law to report it. The hospital may also have such a requirement.

    They should have thought of this before engaging in illegal sex.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 10:33 AM
    ScottGem

    The school may also be required to report it. They will have to be informed as well.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 10:49 AM
    mjr73080
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by califdadof3 View Post
    She is pregnant and it most likely will be reported. Why are her parents allowing her any where near a 19 year old ? In almost all states I can think of thats statatory rape at a minimum.

    By her parents not reporting it they could be charged with aiding and abbedding and could also go to jail or prison. They need to come clean with this situation.

    You do not know what state she is in and certain states they do have an age of consent such as Oklahoma it is 16 yrs old so a 16 yr old can sleep with a 25 year old but as long as she consented to it nobody can be arrested for anything
  • Mar 20, 2009, 10:52 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mjr73080 View Post
    you do not know what state she is in and certain states they do have an age of consent such as oklahoma it is 16 yrs old so a 16 yr old can sleep with a 25 year old but as long as she consented to it nobody can be arrested for anything

    But the sister is 15!! In only a few states is the age of consent that low. Which is basically what califdad said.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 02:43 PM
    meme8994

    Is there anyway he COULD get away with it?
  • Mar 20, 2009, 02:46 PM
    stevetcg

    Sure, but you won't find anyone that will help him break the law here.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 03:03 PM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by meme8994 View Post
    is there anyway he COULD get away with it??

    If no one reports it or if the local prosecutor declines to prosecute. But if they do decide to prosecute, he's looking at jail time.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 03:43 PM
    cdad
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by mjr73080 View Post
    you do not know what state she is in and certain states they do have an age of consent such as oklahoma it is 16 yrs old so a 16 yr old can sleep with a 25 year old but as long as she consented to it nobody can be arrested for anything

    Please read more carefully before you post. Again Im going to repeat a post that I have already made.

    PSST.. I think this might be a good guess from the OP's post.. lol


    " we live in illinois "


    Its safe to assume they are in Illinios.. lol
  • Mar 20, 2009, 04:08 PM
    meme8994

    What's a local prosecuter?
  • Mar 20, 2009, 04:16 PM
    Alty
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by meme8994 View Post
    whats a local prosecuter?

    A lawyer working for the prosecution in your area.
  • Mar 20, 2009, 07:38 PM
    Fr_Chuck

    The prosecution are the District Attorney, they decide what cases to take to court, make the plea deals and so on.

    In the end, anyone can report it, and then the DA will investigate and decide if they will issue a warrant and arrest him for it.

    I will be frank, there are people serving 5 years or more for this exact thing and they will be a registered sex offender for the rest of their life.

    But at this point there is nothing they can do but hope and wait.

    Somehow I have a hard issue with the parents of a 15 year old child being OK with a 19 year old adult having sex with their daughter.
  • Mar 21, 2009, 09:11 AM
    meme8994

    Do you think she and him can get away with it? If she keeps it a secret? I'm so scared for her, she can't raise this baby on her own.
  • Mar 21, 2009, 09:18 AM
    ScottGem
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by meme8994 View Post
    do you think she and him can get away with it? if she keeps it a secret?? im so scared for her, she can't raise this baby on her own.

    She can't keep it a secret. She has to go to a doctor, she should go to a hospital or birth facility for the birth, she willl need to tell the school.

    She can say she doesn't know who the father is, but if this young man hangs around there will be questions. If she tries to get public assistance, they will require that she name all possible fathers who will be called in for paternity testing.
  • Mar 22, 2009, 02:23 PM
    meme8994

    She's so scared and as a sister, there's only so much I can do... do you think she could lie about the father? And say it was a one night stand?and she don't know him?

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