So I started dating this girl a few months back, we have known each other for a year or two but were on a more of a first name basis for that time... had a fun night out with a bunch of friends one night and I worked it up to ask her out... and now that we have been dating a little while I can't help but get jealous because one of her best friends is a guy, in fact a guy who about a month ago didn't tell her how he liked her and everything... but now there still friends and I don't know, it may just be me overthinking but now she seems to not be really putting any effort into keeping the realationship going, and they go out to lunch and stuff together. Plus she has kept notes that he has written her from way back, nothing romantic I don't think... but still the fact that she has kept them when she knows he wrote them before telling her that he had feelings...


Should I be jealous/worried about anything, I really like this girl but its driving me crazy when she says stuff like, I'm working today so we can't hangout anymore sorry, but then goes and has lunch with him the next day before they both go to work...

Thank-you for reading and sorry in adavance about spelling

Don't know if I'm allowed to do this but I could really use some advice so *bump*

So your upset that she isn't putting an effort into the two of you by proiritizing her time for you and only giving excuses when it comes to you? I would upset over this too and I would have a talk with her about.

Maybe its time to date someone who has more time for you. I would, and have. Read my signature, that's always been my attitude.

I'm confused on what your status is with her. Are you guys just casually dating or are you actually boyfriend and girlfriend?

If you are casually dating, then there's nothing you can do because there is no commitment.

If you are girlfriend and boyfriend, then...

If you confront her, she might find you needy, controlling and that you don't trust her. So if you're going to confront her about it, say it in a very relaxed and jokingly way... something like... "hey, seems like you spend more time with your best friend than me..." (tone of voice is very important), and then she'll probably ask you why you are so concerned, then say... "nah, it's cool that you have a good friend to hang out with, but i want to hang out with you too."

You're just going to have to trust her or else...