My question is about a 2 year old that always cries sometimes without reason. Somethimes he cries even if you just look at him and it's at least 15 minutes of crying. That goes on all day long even since he was a baby. He did have acid reflux as a baby so I thought that was it. He still constantly cries over everything. :confused

Have you taken him to his pediatrician? Does your son talk enough yet to be able to express what he is crying about? Is your household turbulent or quiet with set schedules?

Thank you for the reply. It is not my son. It's my grandson. The house I would say is active because of a 8 month old and 3 year old in the house. He can let you know know when he has a boo boo so I believe he can tell you if something hurts.

What do you think about the possibility of sibling rivalry? He is the middle child. Many middle children go through this because they feel that they are not getting the attention they need.

That may be the case they children are also very close in age. When we were there for a visit it just seemed he cries the minute he gets up and during the night and all day long. I am concerned it might be something else. Just not sure what and I am trying to bring it up to my daughter without causing hard feelings.

Can you give reasons he cries?

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Originally Posted by tonijeanp

That may be the case they children are also very close in age. When we were there for a visit it just seemed he cries the minute he gets up and during the night and all day long. I am concerned it might be something else. Just not sure what and I am trying to bring it up to my daughter without causing hard feelings.

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This actually brings several things to mind: The ages of the children makes it appear that there is probably a lot of activity going on all the time. This may be a lot for your grandson to process. Also, how often do you visit? Are you a bit like a stranger to him? Have you taken him to a playground or park by himself and assessed how he does when he has one on one attention? As for how to bring it up to your daughter, you could simply ask her if he is upset with you being there and see if she says something like "no, he cries all the time". Then you can suggest a visit with the pediatrician or helping her out with one on one time.

I'm sorry I didn't convey that very well. Our visit was in November and I understand him not being comfortable with us right away. I talked to my daughter almost every day and he is crying in the background always. We usually have to end our 15 minute conversation early because he is crying. We are not on the phone for a long time because of having 3 children. I just feel bad because my daughter seems stressed and he's always crying. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I feel the need to help both of them. I tell her that he may feel her stress and that could be why he is upset all the time. Do you agree?

I think the earlier suggestion of taking him to his pediatrician is not a bad idea. There could be a number of different things going on. Something may be constantly bothering him and he doesn't quite know how to explain or tell someone about it. Whether that be due to some type of illness or jealousy. Kids can be very tricky to figure out and sometimes the most obvious thing isn't so obvious. I would think if its due to too much commotion in the house or sibling rivalry she would be finding him sitting alone a lot, like maybe find him in a closet by himself or something like that. If it is easy for her to get him to calm down then most likely it's a jealousy thing or something along those lines. If nothing she does gets him to stop crying then there may be something else wrong in the sense of something hurts or doesn't feel to well. She definetely should take him to the doctor though just to rule out anything serious. Good luck and keep us posted on how things go.

Thank you all. I did suggest yesterday that she talk to the doctor about him crying all the time. She will do that...

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Originally Posted by tonijeanp

I'm sorry I didn't convey that very well. Our visit was in November and I understand him not being comfortable with us right away. I talked to my daughter almost every day and he is crying in the background always. We usually have to end our 15 minute conversation early because he is crying. We are not on the phone for a long time because of having 3 children. I just feel bad because my daughter seems stressed and he's always crying. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I feel the need to help both of them. I tell her that he may feel her stress and that could be why he is upset all the time. Do you agree?

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I agree that her stress can easily affect her son. Do you live close to them where you could help her out? Oddly, you can also suggest to your daughter that she treat him as a "big boy" and "need his help"... while he's "helping" with picking up toys or "reading a book to the baby, she can constantly tell him what a help he's being. If it's attention he's after, this may help and if he's crying out of boredom it will give him something else to focus on.

Again, just suggestions.