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Hey, I'm only 15 years old and the outer lips of my Virginia is wrinkled.
I personally think it looks disgusting and I don't even want to have sex
With my boyfriend because I'm too scared of his reaction.
I know he loves me for who I am but, I just don't want him to see it...
Is this normal?
Is there anyway I can change how it looks without surgery?
Please help me. I'm in dire need!
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Okay:
1) You're 15 so you shouldn't be having sex because you are not possibly prepared for the consequences.
2) You do not know the name of your body parts - vagina
3) It is a serious emotional commitment that you are not ready to enter into if you think your boyfriend would be concerned with how your "virgina" looks.
Women's bodies are all different and there are men that like each type. Even wrinkly "virginas"
Whose "virginas" have you been looking at to compare yours with?
If you have sex, plan to be a mother.
There is no such thing as an ugly "virgina"
But unless your ready to be a mother don't even think about using it for sex.
Just put that thing away. It's a baby cooker.
I am not touching this one... I just wanted to prescribe to the thread just to make sure this thread does not begin to show any signs of wrinkles that should not be here...
Well saying she's too young to have sex isn't going to stop her! It didn't stop me! I lost my virginity when I was almost 15 and I'm almost 18 now. But back on topic, everyone looks different. I really wouldn't worry about it. Believe me, if he really wants to have sex with you and he's really into it, he won't even notice. If you're really worried about it, turn the lights off! As you get older, you'll become more comfortable with your body, I did. :) Hope I helped a little! Oh, and just because you have sex, does NOT mean you'll get pregnant with the right protection.
The problem here is not just her age.. she is not even aware of the proper names of her body parts let alone... being 15 I hardley think that an accident won't happen.
How do you know what she knows? Because she spelled vagina wrong? It was probably a typo. Ever think that was a possibility? You're going to base giving this girl advice on her spelling? That's why girls don't ask people/ their parents about sex, they're judged. How about looking past that? I thought people were more open minded these days.
We can only base what her experience is with what she has put forward. To all who read her question they see a naïve young woman without a clue.
Based on another thread posted by the OP, she's not even sure if it's OK to be in this relationship for starters: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...-a-313674.html. So I'd bet her parents would care that she was considering having sex with this young man.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stardust09
No one is judging her, she came for advice and she is getting it. When you ask for help, people are not going to always tell you what you want to hear. Many of us here are open-minded but no sane adult is going to advise a child (because that's what she is, a child) to engage in sex when she clearly is not ready. Also the OP is saying she isn't comfortable with her own body yet, so therefore she shouldn't be sexually active with someone until she has accepted her body and all its imperfections. That shows maturity and she's not there quite yet.
The likelihood of an unplanned pregnancy is higher because of her age. This is a very real possibility that she, and anyone engaging in sex must be aware of. At her age, a "wrinkled virgina" isn't the only thing she should be concerned about.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stardust09
To the OP, you also have to consider the source of your advice... here you've had several different people tell you it's not a good idea for you to be sexually active at your age. People that have lived. People that have hurt. People that have been challenged by unexpected circumstances. People that have experienced what you're going through. But you really shouldn't take advice from someone who doesn't seem to be very stable:My 16 yr. old ran away - Page 3.
The rest of us are challenging you to see all sides of this situation. It's easy to want one thing right now but be sure you're prepared for the possible consequences. None of us can force you to do anything, we can only arm you with the necessary information in order that you can make an educated decision.
Stardust: The wonderful thing about this board is anonymity. Teens can ask straightforward questions and get straightforward responses. In the end, the OP makes her own decision... but if she makes a foolish choice, it won't be because she wasn't warned.
It is normal for it to become this way. I'm sure the wrinkles are probably not that noticeable. It just seems like that because you are used to seeing it the way it usually is and you are becoming self conscious about it. If it looks unhealthy to you see a doctor and ask if it is OK.
BuzzOhbell, you are only 15. Your body has not yet fully matured, and neither are you emotionally or intellectually mature at this point. You are still a young girl. There is a reason that your body grows and changes as you mature. This is because your body is telling you that it's not ready for a sexual relationship.
You are still in your puberty years, and many things will change very quickly, not only the way your body is, but the way in which you perceive it.
If you are having a hard time dealing with this, or you think this is abnormal, which it's likely not, then have your mother take you to a Gynecologist. You don't have to feel embarrassed by asking the Dr. You wouldn't be the first to ask, and you won't be the last. While you are doing this, talk to your Mom, an Aunt, or even a health teacher at school, and speak with them about birth control and the risks of having sex at your age. Pregnancy and STD's are very serious issues, but they aren't the only concerns when having sex at your age. There are also mental and emotional concerns, that you don't yet know about.
Please have an adult take you to a Dr. and slow down a little with your boyfriend. If he "loves" you like he says he does, he will wait to have sex. You need to respect yourself and your body.
[QUOTE]I'm sorry I can rep you Nikosmom but I do want to have this informative and helpful post be a sticky.Whoever is in charge of Stickys please be advised. The more information we can put out there to keep our little sisters safe the better.Advice for young women. ;)Quote:
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Originally Posted by nikosmom
This is going in the Sticky also.We need to have a sticky for young girls to give them the advice they are asking for,or maybe not ,but at least real advice like you just gave.Quote:
Originally Posted by starbuck8
Thank-you!
All though I've been saying we can't stop you, I do advise you wait to have sex. I wish I would have. It's a really big deal. So if you can, you should.
Actually aren't vagina lips supposed to look a little wrinkled? Ofcoarse everyone is different but I would think that a lot of people would have wrinkles/creases.
Virginia is a state... VAGINA is a sexual organ.
Stardust09:
Please don't PM me just because you didn't like my response to a thread. It's a public forum and if you have something new to add it may be helpful to the OP. That being said, I will address the PM publicly:
"So now I'm not stable? Listen, not to disrespect you, but I did not personally attack you at all through out this whole thing.I'm not perfect and I don't claim to be. So who are you to judge me? I've received help and have taken care of my problems. But I think it is HIGHLY inappropriate for you to make me sound like a whack job. Would you appreciate it if someone said you child was "unstable" because they had problems when they were younger? I've lived too. It may be only 18 years, but I've been in her position. I thought maybe I could help. I didn't say "HEY GO OUT AND HAVE SEX WITHOUT PROTECTION!" I don't think that you are wrong. She should wait. I was just really offended when you called me unstable. All the things I said went on were over a year ago. And you have no right to judge someone you know nothing about. I got on here to try and help people, not be criticized on my past. It's the past for a reason."
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I didn't make you sound like a whack job, I referenced what you said on another thread. I just pointed this out to the OP because I do believe it's valid in knowing the source of the advice. You say you had problems when you were "younger" but the incidents I referred to only happened within the past year. [You said you're almost 18 which equals 17 today right? The post said you ran away when you were 17 - so not that far in your past.] I never judged you for having had these problems in your past but you are hardly in a position to advise a child on sex. Your post on the other thread mentioned your own emotional instability.
So I stand by the fact that I brought it to the OP's attention. We've all made valid points as the why we think the OP should wait on engaging in sex- We're not just saying, "Don't do it."- we are offering legitimate reasons as to why she should wait. You're right, having sex doesn't necessarily mean she will get pregnant, however it is still a possibility. Having sex is a huge emotional undertaking and the OP doesn't seem to exude the maturity to handle this situation.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stardust09
That's hardly reason to advise a child that it's ok; just because you started having sex at 14. That is why I've pointed out your "not so smart" decisions. I would feel differently if you were now 25 or 30 and this was long in your past but it's not. I'm not judging you for your past, if I was I'd say that I think you will continue along this path. I did not say that nor did I insinuate it.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stardust09
I do agree that he probably won't even notice her "wrinkled virgina" but of course if she's not sure enough about the relationship where she does think he'd care about it, that's a further sign that she should wait and that is what we have all been pointing out. You brought yourself and your personal history into the equation and that is why it was scrutinized.Quote:
Originally Posted by Stardust09
Carry on... :cool:
{Dear KC, I hope you don't mind me borrowing your tagline. I felt it was appropriate here. Thx, NM}
Guys lighten up on her... she came on here to ask for re-assurance that her body was normal... OK she might not be mature enough for sex but that wasn't what she asked... its no wonder so many young girls are terrified of asking a simple question
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