Okay me and my boyfriend have been together for around 5 years we hardly ever sleep together. Lately I haven't seen his phone and the one time I had I open it up to see a fake email address that I have never heard of with a email to this girl which was obviously when I confronted him I believed he was cheating on me but he lied and said the account wasn't his. Later he told me that it was his account but he had been using it for men dating sites but he was sure he wasn't gay. Now I don't believe a word he says gay runs in his family how do I know he's not just comfortable with me that's why he says he wants to be with me. I have no idea what to believe and how does this girl fit into it?
Arrgg please help someone I am so confused I have actually broken it off
Any advice
Thanks

How old is he?

I guess it's time for you to decide if this is acceptable behavior. He has Something going on, and he is lying about it. Whether he is gay, or is chatting up other women, you realize something is going on. what do you WANT to do?

First off... Gay runs in the family is a ridiculous statement. I don't believe sexuality is passed on from onde generation to the next. I also do not feel that a man who knows he's straight would have any urge to chat and flirt with men to see if he was into it unless he knows deep down inside he is gay. Sexuality is a natural thing. You do not chose it. There really is no need for a straight man to be experimenting with men if he is staright. Him telling you he used his account for men dating sites alone tells you he's not completely straight. Or he may just be lying trying to cover up the truth that he was flirting online but syaing he used the account to talk to men is completely crazy for a straigh t man to be using as an excuse. Low sex drive is also a red flag to me that something may be going on with his sexuality. Are you sure the "girl" he was talking to online was in fact a "girl" and not a man?

He sounds like he is actually bisexual-and is afraid of discussing this with you. NO SEX?? Bizarre, I'm sorry, but healthy straight men like sex with their partners, and often. Using a ploy such as chatting on GAY sites rather than telling you about a girl sounds very suspect to me.

Tell him its "have sex with me on a regular basis-or move on!" I wonder what sort of response you will get, You may gauge his response and to how YOU will then deal with it.

From what you said, your relationship sounds dreadful and full of mistrust.

Life is about living and learning... time for you to move on and have more life experience in all areas and grow into a mature woman.

Best wishes in the future, :)