For the past two months when my husband and I have sex he is not able to climax. I've asked him what's going on but he just makes up one excuse after another. Is it possible for a 38 year old man to go two months without ejaculating? I've always heard that a man must or it will cause problems even pain. Is there a medical problem that would cause such a thing?

I think it is a psychical problem.

I disagree about the pain, but others may say differently. Moodiness? Absolutely.

Lots of things can contribute to problems, and as was already mentioned, mental blocks can be killer. Physical issues like depressioin, high blood pressure, etc can contribute, not to mention that the older you get, the more difficult it can be. At least its not the same as when you are 18... I remember riding to school in 8th grade on the bumpy bus rides and getting steel piercing erections for absolutely no good reason. Man... those erections are wasted on the young! Not saying I cannot get or sustain now, but I have noticed differences as I've aged, and I'm a little younger than your husband. Again, outside the physical, the mental side is big too. If he's upset or frustrated, if he just cannot lose himself in the moment, even if he wants to, then that can escalate the problem.

A few questions:

Is he having problems with sustaining or is longevity is fine, but no climax? When you've had sex, has he tried to climax without waiting for you? Can you stimulate him to that point by other means than intercourse?

I agree wholeheartedly with KP, I just want to ask if he is on any medications?

Some medications can and will cause this effect.

There are times that the male just can not get the desire for sex, he can have an erection and he can give the girl great pleasure but if he himself does not have that spark he may not have an orgasm. This is one of the reasons that guys like to watch porn or to have the female start the action by being vocal and him that he is desirable and needed. You females should know that if you are not in the mood to have sex it is almost impossible to really enjoy it, and no amount of foreplay will change the outcome if you just don't want to do it. I also have an idea that one of the reasons that married men go to ladies of the evening is because the wife does not know what to do and the prostitute knows exactly what will turn a guy on.