Hello guys!

its me! =D

hehe.. lets see if can practice what I preach!
ha!

Well my girlfriend is coming back after 7 months of being away working.. now she has given me the keys to her house. And basically told me to move in.. Which I have.. now I have not made her! The most important thing in my life.. she is only a part of it...

the thing that gets to me is.. it has been shuch a long time since I have seen.. her. That I feel that. The emotions that was once there. Have either gone or are not as strong..

now.. I am willing to work at it.. to make them strong once again.. but it shocks me that she would leave her current 7month job to come back and live with me..
it is what she says in her emails.. but well all know to well. That many.. people say one thing.. and do another..

its just after so much I have gone through.. and so much I have seen.. it makes me second guess myself.. as to if this is the right move that I am doing..


I will say this though.. I will try it out for a few months.. once she comes back to see how everything goes.. and to see if the feelings are there... I guess that is all we really can do right?

and for you people to ask if I do love her.. and if I wantt o be with her..

Sure I do =) I mean who does not want to be with someone right?

but the fact is.. logic and time tends to blend in.. I wish I could live in the little river in Deniel. But sadly I can not =D

Anyway I guess all I can do is.. wait till I see her.. and see how things go.

guess the fact of the matter is.. I have invested a lot of time and effort into this relationship and I hope it will come back to me.. but as you all know.. with love and with relationships!. everything is chance! Ha! =D isn't that just the best! :P

so I guess I am taking a risk here.. but it should be intresting.. something inside me says.. dude! What the hell are you doing... you dare to put yourself out like this!
where as another part of me goes... dude yay! You got someone that wants to make a life with you yay!

tell you what =) two vocies inside your head its not the best.. as non of them let each other finish!

anyway I respect most of you guys on here =)

its just.. I would always love to know before hand what was going on you know.. so it wouldn't have to be a huge shock! =)

I guess I'm just venting.. but as everyone from time to time.. we all need it..


looking forward to hearing all your guys views =) good or bad feel free to give it to me!
=D

because I dish it out.. so I can sure take it!

regards

Faith

Why don't you just come right out and ask her for the TRUTH.
Why did you really leave your job.
Why did you ask me to move in?
What do you hope to accomplish and where do you want this relationship to go?
Why would this time be any different than last time?
If she can truly answer these questions with answers that are satisfactory to you, THEN you will know more about how and if you want this thing to proceed.
I personally think it was a mistake to move in without these questions addressed. It sounds like she felt safe to assume that you would still be waiting in the wings for her.

True,
I am happy for you. I think you have a legit reason to be scared, but I fear you are scared to put your heart out there again for fear of being hurt... perhaps I am wrong.

As far as your girlfriend, I wouldn't go into it without an open mind. This could be a great opportunity to find out if the two of you are truly compatible, as living together changes a lot of things, and I respect any girl that could live with a guy (and vice verse). Just go with the flow, enjoy getting to know each other all over again, and see what happens. No one says this has to be it... this is your life, enjoy what comes your way and don't over analyze everything.

I will say, that to be away from a person for 7 months and then all of a sudden move straight in together will probably be a bit awkward at first, but that doesn't mean it won't be really nice. Enjoy my friend! Good luck!

While I understand your fear at the moment, as its quite an adjustment being with someone who has been gone for so long.

Go slow, and see what happens, and open the lines of communications slowly, as you get reacquainted. Time is on your side, and we all risk our feelings under these circumstances, so keep it simple, and have fun getting to know each other again.

I don't have to tell you to keep expectations reasonable, as this is a process, and you have to work through it.

Thank you all so much for your help.. I will take it slow... as that's all I really can do at this time..

She has of course said all the words.. I love you.. I want to be with you.. I want a life with you..

but we all know words. Are just words.. show me actions..
I guess as Tiger said.. I'm just scared to open up again.. and I think I am putting myself on the spot...


I will let you guys know what happens =) thank you all again!
great advice

Regards

I think you should look at it as dating someone again for the first time. Hold back, don't give everything and take it slow. Above all stay in control, and if she tries to guilt you into anything by saying "I left my job for you" remember that was her decision, not yours so don't be bullied into going against who you are because of stuff like this.