Hi Everyone,

I am a father of 2. I have a son and a daughter, and I love them very much. For 5 years, I have been fighting to find a way to win my kids, which my kids, are crying to stay with me more than with my ex-wife.

I admit, that I am behind on child support due to laid-off from work. I am now self-employed and working very hard to get ahead in child support. I will never ignore or forget about child support.

I am also hard of hearing, which is not consider handicap. I do like to work and I am great with my hands. I can fix or repair almost anything that comes through me. I am currently living in Florida and working hard to move into my new home.

Sincerely, Alex

I am desperate of finding real help on getting my kids in full custody. I tried filing visitation contempt and my ex lawyer somehow found a way not to be settle. My kids been asking me to find someway for me to keep them with me than with her.

I know she had done neglect things and emotional abuse. No one is listening and even the judge won't care. All they care about is child support. I know I am behind, but I will never ignore it. I been laid-off and no way to find work. Now that I am self-employed, I am trying hard to catch up on child support.

I can tell you a lot of things about what is going on at my ex but it will take long time for me to write.

If anyone who has solve this before, please let me know and I will do the same to win my kids. I love my kids and I will do anything to get them to it's rightful parents.

An attorney and filing for custody is the only way. Next your attorney is not the one to "settle" that is your choice of offers your ex may make.

You get the kids to testify in court, you get proof of the neglect, statements of teachers, photos of them being dirty when you pick them up and more.

As for as contempt, some judges will give them warnings for the first three or four times you take them to court, so often it is a matter of taking them back time and time again.

First, please pay more attention to the rules for posting on this site. I've moved this from the Introductions forum which is clearly marked as NOT for asking questions and merged it into your other thread.

You have to show proof that the mom is unfit as a parent. Unless there is real abuse that is going to be very hard.

As the kids get older, courts may put more weight on their preferences.

How old are your children? If they are 12 or 13, they can state who they want to live with. Case closed. Unless you have proven yourself guilty of something that would endanger them, they get to decide.
I did too

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Originally Posted by wise2005

how old are your children? if they are 12 or 13, they can state who they want to live with. case closed. unless you have proven yourself guilty of something that would endanger them, they get to decide.
i did too

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In no US state can a minor child decide which parent they want to live with. Only a Family Court judge can male that decision based on the best interests of the child. Some states do offer guidelines on how much weight to put on the child's choice, But the judge makes the decision.

At this point and considering the length of time it has been since this all got started. I would suggest that when going to court and asking for a custody change to request a parental evaluation. That involves both of you and the children. Its not cheap by any means. That way you both have a say and so do the children. The courts must act in the best interests of the children and if your having problems with parental alienation then doing a evaluation will bring that out. Be sure you use a competent lawyer when going to court and anytime a change in custody is requested.