OK, I need your advice. My bf(ex now) broke up with me 3 months ago. I met him in school and we were together for 4 months. We had a really good time before then he just changed, he completely ignored me and blamed that he was so busy with school. We barely saw each other even we live in the same dorm. Im older than him and is a prerry girl. I took care of him but he didn't care about that even he was the only who wanted to start this relationship. I feel like I was the only one who wanted to work on this relationship but not him. We have little things in common but I was willing to do anything to make this relationship work. I went home for Xmas but he didn't call me but once. I only need someone to care about me a little bit, to make me feel that I have a boyfriend but unfortunately he didn't understand that. I told him what bothers me, then he said he wasn't ready for relatioship, and wanted us to be friends. It brokes my heart so I moved back home. We still talk like friends now. He calls me every week, and it've been 3 months already. Before when we were together, he didn't talk that much, that makes me think that he misses me. He just called me this morning and asked me what if he has a new girlfriend? I told him I'm really happy for him and wish him the best but it hurts me really bad because I still love him. However, he said he isn't with someone now, he just asked me that because he wanted to know why our relationship didn't work before. I'm really confused now, I don't know if he really has a new girlfriend or he just wants to test me. Some how I still have the feeling that he still likes me but doesn't want to admit that. I might be wrong but this guy is really immature, he's only 20 and I'm 25. But what is the point of calling me everyweek just to talk even we 2000 miles away? Is there chance that we could get back together? I'm going back to his hometown to sudy next couple month (thats where we met)... and what if he does really have a girlfriend now, should I still talk to him or move on?

I would have stop talking to him 3 months ago. The contact has kept you hopeful, so stop taking his calls, and tell him to take a hike.

Wow, you sound much younger than 25. I agree with T-man, I would sever all ties with him. If he really wanted a relationship with you he'd put some effort into it. Stop taking his calls and move on.

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" I feel like I was the only one who wanted to work on this relationship but not him. We have little things in common but i was willing to do anything to make this relationship work."

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This is so bizarre to me? Why in the first place do you want to be with someone you don't share common intrests with? That's one bad sign, 2nd, if in fact he does want you back and you view him as immature and what seems heartless, again why would you want him? It really sounds to me like you're the young and immature one, not trying to harsh but did you read what you wrote? Its like a desperate cry for help... You need to focus on yourself and school and maybe try to figure out why you need someone to want you so badly instead of trying to grab someone and hold on to them, whether they are good for you or not. Let this poor guy go, and wait till someone finds you, if its meant to be, it will be, stop torturing yourself..

As Tal said you should have stopped having contact with him 3 months ago , then you would be in a whole better place now and a long way into your healing process.

As it is your just having contact with him and your getting temporary relief and just prolonging the pain of the break.

It's like taking an Aspirin for a Terminal disease.

Your holding on to him out of hope that you to get back together, this is leading to a big disappointment.

Stop picking up his calls, stop calling him and go NC. Trust me, with time and distance this will surely heal.

You go NC as the rest have said to you.

And get into counselling you have severe self esteem issues. You want to be with a man who never bothered to call you and is now playing with your emotions?

Maybe he might want you, and if he does are you just going to accept his old behaviours again?

You moved away, now it's time to move on.