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  • Mar 12, 2009, 02:01 PM
    ohidontknow21
    Should I give up on him?
    I am a second semester freshman in college and the guy I REALLY like is a senior in my old high school who will soon be at a college directly across from mine. We have been friends for just over 2 years now and its all very complicated. We met in spanish class and had a good time talking in class and then lost touch over the summer. The next school year, my senior year, we were again in the same class and we started talking on the phone everyday for, on average, 2 hours about things that we had never shared with anyone else. When romantic feelings began developing I told him that I wasn't ready to go there yet and the next semester we lost touch again. Over the summer before I went to college we talked on the phone again mostly about other girls that he needed advice with. Currently, he has a wh*re for a girlfriend and we recently agreed to see where our relationship can go over the summer, which is in 2 months. He called me on Valentine's Day and that is the last time I've heard his voice and every time we text I usually initiate it. I saw him pass in his car a couple days ago and he initiated a text conversation where he asked me when my summer break begins. He has a lot of issues from his past and does not live with his parents. I am his support. I can't put all the amazing details in here but this is very general and I just want some opinions. All I know is I miss talking to him! He makes me SO happy!
  • Mar 12, 2009, 06:31 PM
    ohidontknow21

    I've seen that several people have viewed my post. I would REALLY appreciate some comments! PLEASE!
  • Mar 12, 2009, 06:43 PM
    JoeCanada76

    You said He has a whore for a girlfriend. Honestly it does not matter what you think. If he has a girlfriend right now. Then what are you? A Summer fling?

    If he is presently still have a girlfriend, then I would say give up on it for now.

    If by any chance he does not have a girlfriend anymore and your ready to go further with him then sure see where it goes.

    Remember how you pulled back, do you expect him to do the same?

    P.S. Just because many people read your post, does not mean they have an answer for you. Do not expect an answer from everyone that reads your post.
  • Mar 12, 2009, 07:13 PM
    nikosmom

    He is in a relationship so he is off limits. Period.

    If he wants to see "where things can go" then he needs to be ready to call it quits with her. When he's ready to do that, he will without prodding from you. In the meantime, you need to move on. It's not fair to you to wait and only be a "summer fling". Does being his side dish really appeal to you?
  • Mar 12, 2009, 08:36 PM
    ohidontknow21

    Thanks SO much for your inputs. Your absolutely right and I'm not actively pursuing him, I'm just excited about the thought of it working out. It is good to be reassured sometimes and I'm sorry if I sound really needy. I'm actually quite intelligent but tend to over think things. Plus, I don't always come across well in impersonal communication. Can you answer me this though, if you can; Do you think that his evasion of talking to me very often is because it's hard for him to talk to me after I've rejected him once a year ago and now want him to wait until I am back home this summer to finally be together, or because he isn't sue what he wants and he wants to keep me at a distance until he figures it out? Or another reason?

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