I'm a 22 year old woman. I've tried everything and I cannot orgasm.

I just got out of a 2 year relationship with the best sex partner ever. Before him I had never orgasmed with a man. Only when I'd masterbate but then I met him and he put forth every effort to find my g spot and did. Once he found it sex became like a total long gentle orgasm. No exaggeration. But ne that I've come to realize a relationship with him would not work I cannot orgasm during masturbation.

I've tried all the methods I know, under water pressure in the bath tub, dildo, bullet, and my hands but no orgasm. Last night I tried for 20 minutes... my ex could have me there in no more than 3 minutes... and I did not orgasm I just got tired.

What else can I try or am I going to have to call my ex and use him for sex?

DO NOT CALL YOUR EX... I am surprised that you even posted this.

First, your situation is TOO fresh. When women are emotional stressed, an orgasm can be VERY difficult to achieve.

For women, orgasms are a whole physically and emotional thing. Most women can not obtain an orgasm with a partner UNTIL they are comfortable with him and themselves.

Your break up is SO fresh and you are emotionally hurting right now and your body is reacting. You will orgasm again, just when your head clears up a bit.

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Originally Posted by Justwantfair

DO NOT CALL YOUR EX... I am surprised that you even posted this.

First, your situation is TOO fresh. When women are emotional stressed, an orgasm can be VERY difficult to achieve.

For women, orgasms are a whole physically and emotional thing. Most women can not obtain an orgasm with a partner UNTIL they are comfortable with him and themselves.

Your break up is SO fresh and you are emotionally hurting right now and your body is reacting. You will orgasm again, just when your head clears up a bit.

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The final break in our relationship happened last week but the physical stuff in our relationship shut down a month ago after the first time I suspected him of cheating. I haven't had an orgasm for a month or so

I am just telling you, you will recover, you have a lot on your plate right now. Then to top it off you are adding pressure to yourself by worrying about it.

Take some time off and relax. You will function again, I promise.

I have to be frank, I don't believe that you were an orgasmic woman in the past with your ex boyfriend... all that great multiple orgasming neural pathways would not be forgotten... you would be able to multiple easily if you have PASSION. **Very easily**. :)

I think your problem is totally lack of passion, desire... which studies show is a female's primarily sexual complaint today. Lack of desire.

Do you want to talk about getting desire back?

Best wishes to you, :)