I've been dating this woman for about 8 months now. We currently are in a long distant relationship. She's very bright, pretty and hard working. Everything that I would want in a woman. I could see her as the mother of my future children. She's very organized, goal oriented, and pro-active. Its very interesting relationship. What I lack she seems to have in droves. I see her about 4 times a month.
Everything is great but we tend to fight over stupid things when we are together. She's obsessed with cleanliness which is good thing, she has a type A personality and she works in a extremely competitive academic environment. I like discussing different topics with her because she's a fountain of information and her IQ is extremely high but there are problems. She is not as nurturing as my Ex-girlifriend. When we fight or argue I'm the type that tries to make up. She will hold a grudge until the next day. The sex is good at times but lately has been horrible. I think part of the problem is mental on my part. I'm attracted to her physically but I find her personality in the intimacy department cold and unbending. Nothing like my last girlfriend. I understand she has a lot more responsibilities in terms of work.. . but As a result I go limp sometimes when we are having sex. I'm just not into it. Even when I masturbate I can't even get myself fully erect thinking about her. It's weird she wants me to more dominant in the sex department but she's inflexible when it comes to certain things and its just frustrating. Even when I initiate sex it's the wrong time.
When we fight I find myself calling my Ex-girlfriend. I fantasize about the things I did with her and I find I get fully erect... No problem and I'm able to ejaculate right away. My Ex had a care free spirit and was very open to new and different things. She would walk around the apartment with teddys no panties. Often times she would initiate sex and I could make her orgasm multiple times. She was passionate about everything about sex. From her expressions on her face to how she kissed me... just very different than how it now. I could have sex anytime I wanted. My Ex was not only great in the sex department she had an extremely good heart. Very nurturing and kind... and often times when we fought she would be the peace maker. She didn't have a college degree but she is an avid reader. I broke up with her because I left the city that she was in and couldn't take the emotional toll.
After fighting with my current girlfriend and thinking that the relationship was over I got back with my Ex. After a week after the break up with my current girlfriend, I started talking to her again. So I'm talking to two women and I'm feeling extremely guilty letting both think that they are the only one in my life. What should I do?
