Hi, I need help on how to deal with my son at the moment.
I have 6 kids and they all get on fantastically well, there's hardly any fighting and its totally great. I have a daughter who is 14 and a son that is 16. My daughter started going out with a guy who is 16 (theyve been together 3 or 4 months now) and my sons gotten VERY overprotective in the last 2 months. Ryan (daughters boyf) did a lot of drinking and drugs in the last 2 or 3 years but he stopped when he started seeing my daughter because she told him too. I know he's definitely stopped because his parents are good friends of mine and my daughter told me he had and her and I are very close.
Anyway, of course my son doesn't believe this and he gets all pissed of when Ryan is about or when my daughters going to see him. He's a nice guy that I've known since he was a baby so I have no objection to him going out with my daughter and all I want is for my son to stop acting this way. Im not going to take away his opinion and he can talk about it with me or his dad when ever he wants, I just want him to stop embarrassing my daughter when Ryans with her.

Talking to him isn't working which worrys me because I'm close with him and this isn't like him.

Maybe he has a reason to feel this way. Just because everybody might think that everything is cool and okay with this person. Maybe this person is not good news. Your son has every right to feel over protective of his sister. This is normal. At the same time he needs to understand that he can not control the situation but God help the guy if he does anything to his sister. You can not force him not to act a certain way but just try keeping the communication open with your son.

Joe

I agree. I think he is just being a typical over protective brother. Whether this kid is good news or bad news is unknown to us. But if you and your daughter feel that the son's behavior is overbearing, have HER talk to him. He seems to be out for her best interest, so perhaps she's the one that will be able to tell him to cool off a bit.

That's very sweet of him but tell him he can't act this way if its hurting your daughters feelings. Ask him how he'd feel if she was like that to him.. he wouldn't like it.

Usually your child knows more than what you actually might know.

Tell him she needs to make her own decisions and her own mistakes and she will learn from that.
It's a beautiful thing that he is doing this but he needs to trust her and let her live and learn.Just like a parent has to many times.

Thanks for the advice, I've him and my daughter the sit down and chat, that seems to have helped. He has stop being mean when Ryans about but there is still the tension. All I can do is give it time and see how it works out.