I do not have ESP, but I had what seemed like a great date with a great girl.

Simple enough right?


Well, after an NBA game in front row and dinner out we hugged and said our goodbyes with plans to meet again.

This is where I get a bit confused. Most women leave a "communication trail" of texts and a little thank you or something. She never texts more than 3 times and has never left a: "hope we can do something again..."... or "that was soo fun..." kind of message. Always kind of... business-like.

Today I texted her after a couple days and said "have you recovered from being on TV"?
She and I were on camera... and she said: "I'm still giggling about it...." and also that she was a bit embarrassed - as she didn't like to be on TV... :-)

Then, when I probed a bit and added that she was a lucky charm it was all fine. I haven't heard another thing...

Either she prefers I call or is not interested??

She's not exactly a chatty cathy and it took a few weeks to get my busy schedule to align with hers in the first place and I know she is not a big phone person. In person and direct...

WHAT SIGNALS WOULD YOU LEAVE - even if you were not a big phone person if she wanted me to pursue further? I am not used to such.. subtlty and don't want to push.

Only our first date after all...

Huh. I agree with you, it's odd that you haven't really heard from her. Still, the date seemed to go well, so I'd send her an e-mail and ask if she's interested in another event. If she doesn't show much interest, or it takes forever to get your schedules to mesh again, I'd go for greener pastures. Good luck!

Ps - I think she may wonder how many other girls I take to to games and get on TV or jumbotron and may have wanted assurance that she didn't need to feel uncomfortable about it... but again, even though she is not a big texter or gabber... yet she is wity. So I wonder what would mean "thanks but no thanks" and which might mean... "I think you should ask me out again"?

Its been about a day or so... should I just leave it for a while and see if she comes up with anything new or wait a week and propose something?

Or neither?

I am not big on texting I prefer the odd fashion way and that is talking. When you want to get the feel of someone texting and emails, to me, are so impersonal.

She may be shy and could be waiting on you to make the next move. That may sounds silly but it can be true but I know I am the total opposite. If I see something I want especially if I meet someone I am interest in I go out and get it before someone else beat me to the punch.

Maybe a call to this call won't hurt and invite her out to dinner or lunch maybe even coffee. Listen to her response and read between the lines. After that leave her alone if nothing takes off.

Well, I am "still giggling" sounds positive.

The fact that she let the conversation die and only commented on her apparent nerves re: her 15 minutes of fame is not necessarily a stop sign.

Some women are not texting types...

Women work in whatever their comfort zone is. If you are used to more aggressive types, she may not be one. I'd look for stop signs more than no signs... in other words, not texting a lot is a tough one to read. I admit that a leading text would open the door and make things a lot easier though. I think she's being cautious and yes, may be unsure. But if she wanted you to not ask her out again, she would have waited longer to respond and then just politely commented on your time and been done with it. Is she done with it? I am not sure... :-)

Ladies?