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  • Mar 9, 2009, 12:41 PM
    S1254124
    Cheating boyfriends and what to do?
    I am a single mother to start with, so I have a child in this situation... He is only 1 1/2 but he loves and adores the guy I'm with. We all live together. We recently got an apartment together. (both signed 12 lease). But first let me explain the story so the question can be understandable: I met this guy from a ex friend. She told me all the time that is is very manipulative. (I do agree with her now) But we got together. We have been together now for about 9 months. He quit school and we moved towns about 2 hours away. (He's originally from Florida but was attending college where I lived). We were falling apart. I have never really been able to trust anyone. I'm very jealous. I always think that he's cheating. Well he would always receive calls from his ex's and that would just increase my suspicion. Well I was so determined that he was cheating. So I went out on one of those dating websites and started talking to people. Yes my profile said I wanted a relationship but never did anything. I started talking to this guy. He lived about 1 hour away from me. We talked on the computer and sometimes through text. We talked on the phone once. We never once talked about sex, having sex, or even hooking up. The guy was simply going to take me out on a date as friends. But we weren't going out on a date until me and my boyfriend(the guy I'm asking the question about) broke up. Yes, technically that is cheating but never did anything,only talked as friends. Anyway... after that me and my boyfriend both agreed to quit everything( he was also talking to his ex girlfriends too). But recently I have caught him on his cell phone texting one of he's ex but talking dirty to her. I told him that this was his last try because I'm tired of this. So he said he was going to stop. I work on the weekends 12 hour overnight shifts and I wonder what he is doing because I can not trust him. So my suspicion always rises on the weekends. I found on his recent calls and texts through his phone bill that is has been staying up latey(till 4 or 5 am) texting his ex's. He always deletes the textes before I get home so I can't see them. I'm not hidding anything. I tell him all the time to look at my phone or my phone records... anything will match up. I told him after the last time that I was done and that I'm going to be faithful. I don't know if he is cheating but I want to be for certain that he is before I make him leave. Do you think that he is cheating and how can I find our for sure that he is. ( Let me remind you that all the people he textes and talks to all live in flordia and we live in Missouri.) Should I be concerned?? HELP
  • Mar 9, 2009, 12:45 PM
    Justwantfair

    NO TRUST... NO RELATIONSHIP.

    You need out whether he is cheating or not. You are both young, playing games and it's time you GREW UP for the sake of your child. This is foolish behavior for a grown woman.
  • Mar 9, 2009, 12:55 PM
    Romefalls19

    No trust... no relationship

    Plain and simple

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