Im really going through an emotional brakedown rightnow.it seems like so much is against me.I am ayoung mother and recently my boyfriend of 2 years just left me and now I'm down and out he just left me with all the responsibilities.it's like he strayed away and cheated and now I guess he acts like he doesn't want me anymore.I don't know how it can be so easy for him just to leave like I have struggles to but I can't just walk out on my responsibilitys like that.when I finally thought I could trust someone its like I don't know him anymore.this just happened so I'm trying to take it slow day by day even though its and now I have trust issues I knew him for 6 years.im an emotional wreck because I didn't see it coming!basically how could I get through this without all the time thinking about this and getting upset

Hello Star,

It looks to me as if your boyfriend has shown his true colours. His behaviour is incredibly immature and irresponsible. I can understand that you feel shocked and disillusioned. I know it's a cliché, but it is better that you know now where you stand. Imagine if you stayed together for another 10 years and then realised that he didn't respect you or really value his family. You would feel so much worse than you do now and much more angry.

He is in the wrong here and you deserve better. You say you are 'young', so this is a chance for you to make a fresh start. Its not going to be easy because bringing up children on your own isn't, but at least you can now look forward to the future with your children without a man who is no good for you. As you have issues with trust and still feel very let down, I would be wary about starting a new relationship for a while. You need to go through the process of feeling angry and then feeling at peace with what has happened. You need to get to a stage where you feel that what happened was for the best - in the long run. It probably doesn't feel like that now though. When you will feel stronger you will have more confidence in yourself and your judgement of other people - you will be in a better position to choose somebody who is good for you and your children. If somebody doesn't care about you or respect you very much, they're not worth having.

Good luck - I hope it all works out.

I feel for you, I really do.

Everything that Gracie said is right on the mark. She answered you prefectly.

I would like to say though that you are in a good position to help others here. There are many girls wanting to get pregnant who are not yet married. You can be there to help explain to them how easy it is for the boyfriend to walk out and leave them with all the responsibility.

I know it's not much, but you are in a great position to help others with your experience.

Hey, you will be fine. I'm a single mother of three, been with my ex for 7 yrs and ended up leaving me, although I say he left me a long time before that because of all the cheating he did.
He does not pay child support and doesn't see his kids either. He says he loves his children and all that, but he is not going to "rent" them. Men are pigs. Period. Get mad and do what is right for you and your children.

Hey everyone that's for commenting on my situation it really helped me.Gracie98 your right I do need a better judgement of people and no I'm not ready for a new relationship no time soon.J9 thanks for the reply and I do now tell young girls what I went through and advise them about getting into this situation of being a young mother.Depressed in mo thanks to because I see you're a single mother with 3 I guess we do just have to be strong about this and move on.thanks all I feel better after this!:)