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  • Mar 9, 2009, 03:09 AM
    preggy4
    Pregnant and confused
    I am married women and having an affair. Last week I visited the doctor and he told me that I am four weeks pregnant and I am worried because I am not sure who impregnated me since me and my lover didn't use protective and we had sex the last time on the 10th February. My lover seems to be sure that he is the one who impregnated me. My main concern is that Is there any health risks /complication that I may cause health wise to my husband if he is not the one who impregnated me? The other thing is that I don't want to jeoperdise my marriage
  • Mar 9, 2009, 05:29 AM
    Romefalls19

    You don't want to jeopardize your marriage? Don't you think when you laid down and spread your legs for another guy did that? I hope your husband finds out and leaves your sorry arse. You are a selfish, heartless, and disrespectful woman. Do yourself and your husband a favor and end the marriage. He deserves someone who actually will stay faithful to him.
  • Mar 9, 2009, 06:48 AM
    Ren6
    Health risks? I would say you've potentially exposed your husband to STDs, and you should all three get tested.

    Complications? Certainly. Your husband may be duped into raising and supporting a child that isn't his. If you stay with him, this may come out at some point. Suppose your child needs a blood transfusion and it's discovered that "dad" couldn't possibly be the dad? Suppose the child donates blood at some point and discovers that "dad" isn't really his or her dad?

    It's time to start telling the truth.
  • Mar 9, 2009, 07:04 AM
    HistorianChick

    Unfortunately, you have already jeopardized your marriage. In fact, you've already ruined your marriage.

    If your husband is able to forgive and forget, and raise this child as his own, he is a bigger man than I could imagine.

    Its time to be honest, tell him the truth, and reap the consequences. I'm sorry, but that's the hard facts. You're going to have to tell him, get tested for STD's, and find out if this baby is his or the product of your affair.
  • Mar 9, 2009, 07:48 AM
    Romefalls19

    If he can forgive and forget this, and accept the child as his own(if it is in fact not his) I will personally by that man a round and shake his hand because I could not do that.
  • Mar 9, 2009, 09:36 AM
    MiSSsy111222

    Well unless you "boyfriend" is psychic and he knows the baby is his, I sugest once the baby is born you get a DNA test done. Lets hope you husband is a merciful man once he finds out the truth. That is unless you don't tell him the truth and let the poor man raise a child that might not be his.

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