My mom and dad split a long time ago. Now she has a new boyfriend. He makes her so happy. Ive been trying to make her happy for a long time. He just walks in and she forgets about me. It sounds selfish but I want to be happy too

Have you told her how you feel?
Maybe she thinks your relationship is fine where it is. You need to find a way to bring it up to her. Like maybe point out how other kids mothers do this or that with their kids,

I think nohelp is right. You should talk to her. I think the way a son or daughter makes a person happy is different than the way a boyfriend or girlfriend would though. Chances are she was happy with you but now she's even happier that she's found someone. I might be off base, but that's what I think.

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Duplication.

Too often when one parent leaves the child tries to fill a role and thinks it is there job to do many things

** make them happy is one of them

First it is not your job to make anyone happy, it is your job to be the child

Now you are dealing with having to share.

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I think the way a son or daughter makes a person happy is different than the way a boyfriend or girlfriend would though. Chances are she was happy with you but now she's even happier that she's found someone.

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How come she's not happy with me anymore. She's all Ive ever had. I don't care if its different because she found someone. My sister and her were all I had. My sister acts like she hates me(teenager) and the only person I could talk to was my mom. Now what?

Is something going on to where you feel that you can't talk to her anymore? Your mom, I mean. Does she not spend any time with you now that she has a boyfriend or is it just that she spends less time with you? How many years difference is there between you and your sister and who's older? It's not uncommon that teenage siblings fight. Usually they grow out of it.

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or is it just that she spends less time with you?

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Yeah that's it

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How many years difference is there between you and your sister and who's older? It's not uncommon that teenage siblings fight. Usually they grow out of it.

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Seven year difference My sister is older

I think this is a transition period. You need to talk to your mother about how you feel, because your mother (no doubt since she took so long to start dating again) loves you more than anything. Maybe you can find things to do that include all of you, as you are feeling excluded, then they could have their time and you could have yours sometimes too.

Your Mom really does deserve to be able to move on and have a boyfriend, but that doesn't mean that she doesn't love you anymore.

Have you talked to her about how you are feeling yet?

I don't feel excluded but...
I ndont know how I feel about it

Mandy
It's okay to express how you feel to friends and try to get your feelings out. You feel Jealous a little? I understand that 100%. Your Mom was happy with you, but you have to understand that your mom needs companionship too. We love our children, but when you are off doing your own thing do you want your mom to be alone? No. Try to sit down with your Mom and establish a time that will be your time and nobody else's. You and our Mom need to have a date. Please try to look at this situation a little differently than you are. It will be better if your mom has someone her age that she can relate to and share with. IF mom's happy... everybodies happy right?