:(I'M A SINGLE MOTHER of 4 handsome boys. I keep a clean house, I keep myself up with the latest fashion. My children are well mannered for the most part,average boys. Ages 12,9,7,and 2. A lot of men find me very attractive and said to be a good woman. I have some college. Why am I single and not dating?

The right man just hasn't come along yet. I'm a single mother of only 1 and I know dating can be hard. So I'm sure some guys are intimidated by you having 4 children. You know what, just means they aren't the one for you.

Just be patient and keep doing what you're doing and someone will come along eventually. There are some groups for single parents where you can participate in events both with and without the children. I hear it's a great way to meet people, not just men. But who knows, maybe there'll be a single father in your group or another female friend with a handsome brother? ;)

Hi, dogz4!

Yes, getting involved with a group for single parents would be a good idea! Also, what are you interests and skills, please? Depending on what they are, there may be other groups that you could join.

Thanks!

Don't be sad! Go out and meet people! U sound like you have a good head on your shoulder. Be persistent! Go to church; singles activities; take a class at a local college, there are mature guys there! U might hit the jackpot there! Keep the faith going!

There's got to be a lot of pressure on you to date- having kids probably makes you feel like you need to settle down- but many men aren't looking to settle down with a family right away. You are a BIG commitment! Not only does a man date you- he would have to consider taking care of a family immiediatly.

That is not necessarily a bad thing- the guy that you land will be an awesome one- if he can commit to you and your family, he's one heck of a guy!

I went into dating with high standards, I figured that there wouldn't be a guy out there for me that I would approve of, or my parents would. I'm 19 now, and I found him... Don't lose heart, and don't go looking for love.
He will show up one day, don't worry.

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That's the problem. Some men do not have a problem, but a lot do! That's huge commitment to take care of you and your kids at the same time. They think you want to settle down and have a family, that will drive quite number of men away.

Get in shape, is like an investment! After you catch da fish, then go back to your regular life style and gain all da weight you want... and then some, as bonus!

Your question is why are you single and not dating, and maybe the answer is simply find some time to socialize and get busy with outside activities.

A few single ladies I know have had some great dates from dating sites, singles dances, etc. While many did not turn into long term commitments, their circle of friends as a result of that has remained loyal and strong.

There are many men without partners who are also raising children on their own. I'm not sure how you can find them, but maybe somebody has some ideas.

Maybe the important thing is to just get out there without the kids and have some fun. I'd say with four boys, you need and deserve a break at least once a week.

As to a potential mate, I'd say anyone interested in you, is getting a package deal, and that is a good thing. Five to love instead of one. :)

Old thread that is now archived. I hope that dogz4 returns to address the comments that have been made!

Thanks!